How To Write A Killer Best Man Speech (With Templates)
A funny, heartfelt speech from the best man is one of the most memorable parts of a wedding. Here’s how to give a great toast (without embarrassing yourself).
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A best man speech is the perfect way to send your brother or friend the best wishes in their marriage, but standing up in front of the crowd can be super nerve-wracking.
Watch our video to learn the best (and worst) speech openers:
Here’s how to overcome your public speaking anxiety and give a knockout best man speech that will incite laughter, smiles, or even sentimental tears.
Quick Answer: How to Write a Best Man Speech Fast (with Template!)
A killer best man toast has a formula:
- Start with a funny or complimentary introduction
- Lead into a short story
- Add a bit of vulnerability
- End with genuine congratulations to the bride and groom.
A great speech can take just 15-20 minutes of planning and note-making to save you (and the bride & groom) the embarrassment of an excessively long or inappropriate ramble.
If you want to write a best man speech fast, follow this brief template for a great toast. Your toast should be roughly 3 to 5 minutes long. You can use numbered index cards to help you remember. Then, rehearse a few times in the mirror in the days leading up to the event.
The most straightforward speech outline includes seven main components (feel free to write down your own speech as you go!):
- A great one-liner : This could be a funny joke, a compliment, or an inspirational quote about brotherhood or marriage. Brownie points if it’s unique/personal. The first 15 seconds of the toast should capture the audience’s attention and leave them excited for more. Something like this:
“I’d like to begin by congratulating the groom for his superb taste in choosing the best man [chuckle].”
- Compliment the wedding : Time to ground yourself and show respect with the guests by highlighting things you like about the wedding. For example, you can compliment the beauty of the venue, the delicious food, or the great choice of music. Modify this:
“All jokes aside, this is a beautiful wedding. The bride and groom look like a movie star couple together. And if you didn’t taste the cake, you are missing out!”
- Express gratitude : Say “thank you” to those who made the wedding possible and show appreciation to the groom for choosing you as his best man. Modify this:
“I am so grateful to Mr. and Mrs. Zimerman for hosting us here today, and thank you to the bride and groom for inviting me to be part of their special day.”
- Tell a story : Did you and the groom meet as kids on the baseball field? Were you there when he first met his bride? Did you share a funny experience in college that is appropriate to share? The “meat” of the speech will be a short story about your relationship with the groom. A great story could be something like this:
“When I first met Jeff, he was in a period of transition in life, like we all go through. He had just started a new job at my office in San Francisco, and we met because of our mutual addiction to double shot espressos (iced with a little cream) at 6 AM every morning from the corner coffee shop Bob’s Cup O’ Joe. When we both arrived at the office at the same time, 3 days in a row with eyes like this [widen eyes big], I knew we would be friends for life. A million espressos, meetings, and after-work beers later, I am so proud to call Jeff my best friend. When he told me about meeting a beautiful blonde named Anne at Bob’s Cup O’ Joe a few years later, I knew something would become of it. She even drank the same double shot espressos, iced with a little cream!”
- Admire the couple : Strengthen your bond with the newlyweds by expressing your support for their marriage. If you know a bit about the bride and groom’s relationship, list a few things you admire about their bond. You may emphasize how the bride has positively impacted the groom’s life or how they make a great team.
“Jeff and Anne are a perfect pair, and it seriously warms my heart to see a couple so amazingly in love. They compliment each other in every way and radiate joy when they are together.”
- Summarize your thoughts : Before you wrap up your speech, go back and highlight your key ideas. You can pre-write 2-3 crisp sentences summarizing your support of the couple’s marriage. Modify this:
“I wish I could say I predicted this day would come, but Jeff’s incredible character and charm won Anne over. I am so grateful to be friends with both of them and to join you all in this celebration.”
- Toast to the future : At the end of your speech, raise your glass for a toast to the couple’s love. Modify this:
“Please join me in raising our glasses to a lifetime of happiness and espressos for Jeff and Anne Allison!”
Here is an awesome example of a short and sweet 4-minute toast that left the crowd cracking up:
It’s best to memorize your speech, but there is no shame in bringing a few index cards in your pocket to reference if you get nervous. Don’t forget to prepare and rehearse in advance.
For a more in-depth speech, see our step-by-step guide below.
What to Say in a Best Man Speech (Do’s and Don’ts)
A best man’s speech traditionally takes place at the wedding reception after the maid of honor gives her speech. The best man’s speech should be positive, respectful, and congratulatory. It can last 3 to 5 minutes and should focus on a central theme or story about the groom.
Remember, a best man speech is not the time to “wing it.” If you do that, there may come the point when everything suddenly goes silent, and a crowd of 50-100+ people is staring at you, waiting for what you’re going to say about the groom. You probably don’t want to end up with a cringing audience while telling a story about the groom’s previous relationships:
Instead, remember these key best man speech tips for a successful toast:
Here are a few examples of what you should say in a best man speech:
- How did you meet the groom?
- What is one of your favorite memories with him?
- How did the groom meet the bride? Were you there?
- What is special about the groom?
- What do you like most about him?
- What are his positive traits?
Playful banter : You don’t want to be too corny and cheesy with your bro. Depending on your relationship with the groom and the culture of the wedding, you may want to throw in a little banter with your dude. For example, you might make a funny joke about how much the groom loves going out to eat:
You should also avoid some key topics in a best man speech (more on what to avoid later).
Do not mention:
- The groom’s past relationships
- Sexual jokes
- Drugs, alcohol, or past mistakes
- Insecurities of the groom
- Financial or personal information
- Insults to the bride or the wedding guests
- Overly embarrassing stories
- Teasing the bride
- Anything that could potentially harm your friendship
Keep things positive and lighthearted. While a little witty banter or playful teasing can be fun (depending on your relationship with the groom), you should avoid insulting him or highlighting any major insecurities. The “playful” part of the speech is an excellent fun icebreaker, but it shouldn’t hurt anyone’s feelings or make them feel publicly embarrassed in front of their wedding guests.
8 Common Mistakes and How to Avoid Them
Even with the best intentions, it’s easy to stumble into some common pitfalls when giving a best man speech. But don’t worry, I’ve got your back! Let’s dive into some frequent faux pas and how to sidestep them like a pro.
Open mic night
Remember, you’re not auditioning for a stand-up comedy gig. While humor is great, trying too hard to be funny can lead to crickets… or worse, uncomfortable silence.
How to avoid it:
- Aim for a balance of humor and sincerity
- Test your jokes on a friend or family member beforehand. This part is key!
- Remember, it’s okay if not every line gets a laugh
Roasting, and roasting, and roasting…
Sure, you’ve got dirt on the groom. But his wedding day isn’t the time to air all his dirty laundry.
- Keep stories lighthearted and positive
- Avoid mentioning exes or embarrassing moments
- When in doubt, ask yourself: “Would Grandma approve?”
Rambling rambo
Nothing makes guests check their watches more than a speech that just. Won’t. End.
- Stick to your planned 3-5 minute timeframe
- Practice with a timer
- If you see eyes glazing over, wrap it up
Me, myself, and I
Remember, this speech is about the happy couple, not your life story.
- Focus on stories that involve the groom (and ideally, the bride too)
- Limit personal anecdotes to those relevant to the couple’s relationship
- Use “you” and “we” more than “I” and “me”
Too much liquid courage
A drink might calm your nerves, but too many can turn your speech into a disaster.
- Limit yourself to one drink before the speech
- Hydrate with water
- Save the real celebrating for after your speech
Inside jokes
That hilarious moment you shared might have the groom in stitches, but if no one else gets it, you’ll lose your audience.
- Explain the context of inside jokes
- Choose stories that have universal appeal
- Read the room – if people look confused, move on
Just wingin’ it, bro
Spontaneity is great for improv comedy, not so much for wedding speeches.
- Plan and write your speech in advance
- Practice, practice, practice
- Bring notes or index cards as a backup
Tech failure
Relying too heavily on technology can backfire spectacularly, even if it’s the latest Apple or Microsoft tech.
- If using slides or videos, have a backup plan
- Test any tech elements beforehand
- Be prepared to deliver your speech without aids if necessary
Remember, the goal is to celebrate the couple and their love. Keep that in mind, and you’ll knock it out of the park!
Pro Tip: After writing your speech, run through this checklist to make sure you’ve avoided these common pitfalls.
How to Write a Best Man Speech for Best Friend or Brother: Step-by-Step
If you’re ready to prepare something more in-depth than the quick ideas above, this step-by-step guide can help you write a thoughtful speech that the groom may remember forever. After all, being named the best man at your friend or brother’s wedding is a tremendous honor. But like any honor, it comes with some responsibilities. After you finish all your bachelor party and wedding duties, an epic best man speech can be like the fireworks at the show’s end.
Here are 5 simple steps to make it count:
Start with a theme
Before you start writing and rehearsing your speech, it helps to decide on a theme for your talk. This will give a nice flow to the speech. A theme ensures that you stay on track to communicate your congratulations and appreciation to the groom.
What is the main message you want to get across? A few theme ideas include:
- Family Anecdotes : Best man toasts center around storytelling. This theme is the easiest way to stay on track because you are telling a simple story from beginning to end. Since you are a close friend or family member share anecdotes no one else would be able to share. Consider using pictures from childhood with a slideshow.
- Humor : Whether you’re naturally funny or working on your jokes , your speech is the perfect opportunity to get the audience laughing. Best man speeches are known for getting a little saucy, but you must be careful about offending the crowd or making crude jokes that might insult the bride and groom. If you want to tease the groom with some witty banter, it helps to make fun of yourself or reference an appropriate inside joke.
- Inspirational : Have you and the groom achieved an important business goal or accomplishment together? Do you have a shared role model or favorite motivational book you both read in college? This speech theme can leave the audience feeling inspired.
- Morality : Use your speech to highlight the great person the groom is. Perhaps you give examples of his integrity, trustworthiness, or generosity. You can emphasize how lucky you are to know the groom and how glad you are that he found a woman to spend his life with.
- Sentimentality : When humor and storytelling aren’t your fortes, it doesn’t hurt to get a little corny. Sentimental speeches require a level of emotional vulnerability, but they can leave a huge impact on the newlyweds and their attendees. Here is an excellent example of a sentimental-themed speech where the groom’s big brother brings him to tears with a story about their father’s last words:
Create an outline
You wouldn’t go on a road trip without a navigation system, so don’t go into your speech without a plan. The best toasts and speeches follow the same structure. Pull out a piece of paper and brainstorm some ideas using this format, then use the following steps to fill in the details:
- Hook/Opening statement : The opening statement should be a 1 to 3-line description about the groom. The first 7 seconds of the speech should hook the audience immediately. It warms them up to you and makes them want to pay attention to the amusing stories. You’ll find an abundance of opening-line ideas in the next section.
- Background context : Now comes the why of your speech. This is where the context of your relationship with the groom comes in. You can throw in some funny jokes and a few details about your experience with him. Use this intro to build up the anticipation for the story to come. Write down a few ideas of stories you can tell.
- Tell the story : Choose 1-3 short stories about the groom that is funny, slightly embarrassing, or interesting. Jot down a few of the sensory elements you want to reference, like the smelly locker room or the squeaking of tire wheels. Most stories follow a bell-curve pattern—they start with an intro, lead to rising action, peak with a capstone moment, then tie back to the beginning. Keep this in mind as you brainstorm and follow the story-planning steps below.
- Take-home message : After you get a good laugh or “awww” out of the audience, you’ll want to bring the story back to the beginning. What do you want them to remember about your speech and friendship with the groom?
- Thank the wedding party : Use a quick sentence to thank the wedding party and hosts. Express your genuine gratitude for being invited.
- Closing toast and congratulations : After wrapping up the story and thanking the wedding party, you should invite the audience to toast the bride and groom with you. For an extra cheery finale, act as if you are speaking on their behalf and include lots of well-wishes for the newlyweds.
Pro Tip : Before filling in your outline details, watch this video for an overview of how to give a memorable toast. Human behavior expert Vanessa Van Edwards explains the most common mistakes (don’t start with “I,” “me,” or “my”) and a few secrets to getting the audience to perk up in their seats.
Opening line ideas for your best man speech
Once you have your outline, it’s time to dig into the details. People decide their first impression of you within 7 seconds, so it’s extra important to nail the opening line of your speech. Best men use this opportunity to crack a joke, compliment the wedding, or set a sentimental tone for the speech.
Avoid making the first lines about you. No “me”, “I”, or “my”. Instead, start with a juicy or mysterious line about the groom, for example:
If you need a little inspiration, here are some hilarious and quirky best man speech opening lines:
- “Caring, loyal, honest, good-looking, and an all-around-great guy… OK, enough about me, onto the groom…!”
- “This is the perfect chance to tell you about [Groom] and how talented, special, smart, good-looking, and… sorry, man, I can’t read your handwriting here.”
- “I’d like to give a toast to the bride and groom.” [pull a piece of toasted bread from your pocket and give it to them]
- “[Groom’s name] is the kind of person you call when you lock yourself out of the dorm bathroom without any clothes on.”
- “The bride and groom asked me not to share embarrassing stories or crude jokes during my speech… so that’s it from me! Thanks for listening, everyone.”
- “I’d like to start by congratulating the groom for his excellent taste in choosing the best man.”
- “[Groom] had a tough time choosing his best man. First, he called his most handsome friend, but he said no. Then, he called his smartest friend, and he said no. Then, he called his most successful friend, who also said no. Then he called me, and I said, ‘Bro, I can’t say no to you four times.'”
- “What can I say about [Groom]? I guess I’ll start at the very beginning. He was born on [groom’s birthday]. Our parents were hoping for a girl, but I’ve always said… close enough.”
Here is a genuinely funny opening line from a best brother wedding speech:
Pro Tip : Don’t forget to pause for laughter. If it doesn’t come, you can chuckle at yourself and cue the audience that they are supposed to laugh by saying, “This is where you are supposed to laugh,” or joking, “Sound guy, can you please cue the laugh track?” Then, keep going with your speech.
Don’t worry. You need not be a jokester to give a great opening line. If you want to go the nostalgic or tearjerker route, be sure it is highly personalized and thoughtful. Here are some sentimental opening line ideas:
- “There are friends, and there is family, but friends also become family. This is so true for [Groom] and me. We’ve been best friends since we were X years old, and I’ve always considered him my brother.”
- “There’s an old Irish proverb that says a good friend is like a four-leaf clover—hard to find and lucky to have. I think that’s true. Good friends are hard to find, and I’m lucky to have called [Groom] my best friend for the last X years.”
- “I’ve heard that the best relationships come from the foundation of a deep friendship. Experts say that laughter, mutual respect, and enjoying each other’s company are the ingredients for a long-lasting, joyful marriage. After knowing [Groom] and [Bride] for X years, there is no doubt in my mind that they will make a great pair.”
- “In Good Will Hunting , Robin Williams said, ‘It doesn’t matter if the guy is perfect or the girl is perfect as long as they are perfect for each other.” Anyone who has seen [Groom] and [Bride] together can agree that this is true for them. I haven’t seen a perfect pair, and I’m happy to be part of this celebration of their love.”
To learn more about the best speech openers, use this guide on How to Start a Speech: The Best (and Worst) Speech Openers . Some top tips include:
- Avoid starting with a lackluster nicety like “thanks for having me.”
- Don’t mention your nervousness.
- Avoid mentioning technical difficulties like the microphone or saying, “Can you hear me?”
Background context
Now that you’ve grabbed the audience’s attention, it’s time to give them a little background on why you are giving a speech in the first place. This is another sneak peek at some details you’ll cover in the speech.
The whole point of this part is to tell them how you know the groom—but it isn’t about you. You’ll often hear wedding speeches that start with a drab, “I met the groom in college” or, “My name is ___, and I’m the best man.” You can do better than that! Try saying:
- “The groom was the first friend I made on the high school football team. I had no idea we would become roommates in a bachelor pad throughout college.”
- “As little kids, the groom and I were known to be a dangerous duo in the neighborhood. He always carried the eggs and toilet paper, then instructed me where to throw them. But you can guess who always took the blame for his antics….”
- “The groom and I have been friends and business partners for X years, and as you’ll hear shortly, he is the main reason I broke my arm during the last office basketball game. But first, I want to tell you a less embarrassing story….”
Pro Tip : Focus on the groom, and don’t make it about you. One of the biggest mistakes people make during wedding speeches is talking too much about themselves. Your speech shouldn’t discuss where you’re from, what you think, or how you ended up at the party. The best man’s speech is a time to focus on the groom and his bride.
Tell the story
After your punchy opening line and background info, it’s time to tell the perfect story about the groom. Depending on the length of your speech and the details of your story, some best man speeches cover 1 to 3 short stories.
Reference back to the memories you wrote when brainstorming. Pick a story that includes the most of these captivating elements:
- A little bit of embarrassment : Whether it’s you, the groom, or a mutual friend, it helps to poke some fun at someone in the story. If you fear being offensive, the best person to joke about is yourself.
- Audience member references : You can get major bonus points if you bring wedding guests into the storytelling moment. You might say, “Mom, you might want to close your ears on this one!” or, “Brian, we’re talking about you!”
- Sensory details : What did the scenery look like? What were the prominent smells, sounds, and tastes at the moment? A great story should make the audience feel like they were with you. Don’t forget to mention the frigid cold lake you jumped into or the outrageously spicy food that left you both panting and crying for water.
- A final punch line : Ideally, the best story ends with a shocking moment or funny line. It should leave the audience laughing, crying, surprised, or even gasping. For example, in an epic adventure story about you and the groom on a hunting trip, you may end with, “Just as the shark was about to bite the line, Joe reeled in the massive bluefin and yelled, ‘I think we’re gonna need a bigger boat!’”
Pro Tip : If you have to ask, “Is this appropriate?” it probably isn’t. Some stories are better for late-night beers than they are for weddings. Avoid telling stories related to sexual topics, drugs, alcohol, illegal activities, or anything you wouldn’t want grandma to hear.
Take-home message
When the story finishes, you’ve hopefully elicited some laughter or maybe some tears. All jokes aside, there is a reason you were the best man, and you are probably a significant person to the groom. This is a great time to emphasize the best qualities of the groom and why you’re so happy for his new love.
Here is an excellent example of tying together the opening and closing lines with a heartfelt message about finding the perfect soul mate:
End your speech with a heartfelt toast
We’ve all heard “let’s raise a glass to [Bride] and [Groom]” before. You can do better than that! The final toast is like the fireworks at the end of your best man speech. Instead of something mediocre, invite the audience to join you in a genuine, thoughtful congratulations. Examples include:
- “Please join me in raising our glasses to the beautiful bride and handsome groom. May your lives together be long, healthy, and happy. We love you so much and are excited for you. Cheers!”
- “Lift your glasses to thank Mr. and Mrs. [Bride’s Parents] for hosting this beautiful wedding. Let us all toast to the perfect union of the bride and groom. We wish you a bright and beautiful future. Cheers!”
- “Here’s to the past, for all you’ve learned. Here’s to the present for this beautiful moment we all share. Here’s to the future for all you’ve got to look forward to. Cheers to the happy couple!”
Pro Tip : Make your toast inclusive and communal, so the audience feels like they’re cheering for the couple with you. Use words like “we”, “lets”, and “us”. This congratulation invites them to join as if you are speaking on their behalf.
Use a best man speech template
A template makes things simple if you’re still feeling uneasy about writing your best man speech. You can take the structure of an example speech and incorporate your ideas and stories to make it your own.
Best man speech example for a best friend :
“Tonight, you’ll learn why the groom was destined to marry [Bride]. The year was 2002, and we were all in a bar with friends on New Year’s Eve in New York City. Snow was falling outside, and we were sipping champagne, waiting for the big ball to drop. Seemingly out of nowhere, a woman with a red dress entered the room, and everything seemed to stop. All the bachelors in our group were captivated, but only [Groom] had the guts to walk up to her. Rumor has it that his first opening line was ‘
Everyone talks about a woman’s glow when she’s falling in love, but I swear that [Groom] was smiling from ear to ear from the second they met. We could hardly get him to stop talking about her by the following week. We’d be watching football and drinking beers only to have [Bride’s] name brought up every 5 minutes.
Fast forward 3 years, and we’ve all seen how much [Bride] has positively impacted his life. When he came to me to tell me he was proposing, my only response was, ‘ Finally, dude !’
There’s something extra special about these two. They go together like peanut butter and jelly. They love and respect each other so much. [Bride] was the one for [Groom] from the second they locked eyes in that hazy NYC bar. We are all so happy to be here for your big day. Let’s raise our glasses to the beautiful bride and groom! Cheers!”
Another Best man speech example for a best friend :
“The groom was the first friend I made on the high school basketball team. He wasn’t very good [pause for laughter]. I was the tallest player and obviously had the best free throw, but I was majorly lacking in the ladies department. Thankfully, [Groom] took me under his wing and showed me how to be a true gentleman. That includes opening doors for women and carrying their bags instead of just running in with my own. What would I have done without you, man?
Even though he was no good at basketball, [Groom] always had his head on his shoulders. He’s a respectful, intelligent, and relatively clean-cut guy. All joking aside, it’s no surprise that he ended up with a woman as intelligent and beautiful as [Bride]. You both deserve a lifetime of love, happiness, and success together. Please raise your glasses and join me in congratulating the bride and groom! We love you!”
Practice your body language
Public speaking isn’t only about what you say but how you carry yourself. Your body language can drastically affect your confidence, your delivery, and how the audience perceives you. Use these body language hacks to take your speech to the next level:
- Signal “friend” : Smile and show your open palms to send the message that you are the audience’s friend. This makes people feel more comfortable with your presence and more likely to listen.
- Stand up straight : When you look confident, you also feel more confident. Check your posture if your voice is a little shaky before the speech. Roll back your shoulders and tuck your shoulder blades down towards your back. Slightly lift your chest and chin as you speak.
- Make eye contact: Throughout the speech, you should change your eye contact with different audience members. As you mention specific compliments or thanks, make eye contact with the bride, groom, groomsmen, bridesmaids, and the bride’s father.
- Genuinely smile : Smiling may seem obvious, but it’s easy to forget when you feel so focused on a perfect delivery. At the same time, you don’t want to look like you’re fake smiling throughout the speech. Use these 9 Simple Tips to Smile Better (in any situation!)
- Use your hands : It’s easy to let your nerves get the best of you and feel like a “deer in the headlights.” Instead of tucking your hands in your pockets, widen your stance and take up space. Use your hands and gestures while you talk to show that you are comfortable and happy during the speech.
Want more tips? Here are 17 Body Language Presentation Cues to Use in Your Next Speech .
Rehearse before the big day
Experts say you should rehearse a speech 10 times before performing it. Research also shows that people who mentally prepare themselves before a speech by imagining it going well are more likely to perform fluently and easily. So before you get in front of an audience, be sure you’ve gone over your speech at least 10 times, either in your head or out loud. Better yet, practice in the mirror, on camera, or in front of a trusted friend.
It also helps to review the gist of the speech with the groom (without giving away any secret details) to make sure it’s alright with him. A few weeks before the wedding, you may pull him aside and ask, “Hey man, is it OK if I tell the story about ____ in my best man speech? I think it’ll get some good laughs.”
Although this example is long, this best man very clearly rehearsed his speech for a near-perfect performance without any notes:
10 Expert Tips for Delivering a Killer Best Man Speech
Want to go beyond the ordinary? With just some tricks of the trade, you can keep the audience engaged and the laughs coming in the best speech you’ll ever write. Check these tips out!
Use the “Rule of Three”
Comedians and public speakers often use the “rule of three” because our brains are wired to remember things in threes.
Action Step: Structure your main points or jokes in groups of three. For example: “John is smart, kind, and only slightly obsessed with his cats.”
Use contrast to spark interest
Contrast creates interest and can make your points more impactful.
Action Step: Set up a contrast in your speech. For instance: “While most of us were struggling to figure out how to do laundry in college, Jacob was already starting his first business.”
Incorporate a callback
A callback refers to mentioning something from earlier in your speech, bringing it full circle.
Action Step: Plant a funny anecdote or phrase early in your speech, then reference it again at the end for a satisfying conclusion. For example:
Opening of the Speech:
“Hi everyone, I’m Mike, Jeff’s best man. Jeff always said he’d only get married if he found someone who could put up with his terrible singing in the shower. Well, today he found her!”
End of the Speech:
“Jeff, you found someone who loves you, even with your singing. Let’s raise a glass to Jeff and Anne. Cheers!”
Use the “Vowel Method” for Improvising
If you blank out, remember the vowels: A, E, I, O, U.
- A: And another thing…
- E: Excuse me, I just remembered…
- I: I just noticed…
- O: Oh, I almost forgot…
- U: Unbelievable, I can’t believe I didn’t mention…
Action Step: Practice using these phrases to smoothly transition if you lose your place.
Engage the senses
Help your audience visualize your stories by engaging their senses.
Action Step: For each anecdote, include at least one sensory detail. “The smell of burnt popcorn filled our dorm room as Jordan attempted to ‘cook’ for the first time.”
Use the “Bookend Technique”
Start and end your speech with the same theme or phrase for a polished feel.
Action Step: If you start with a quote about friendship, end with the same quote, but add how it applies to the couple’s relationship.
The “Pause and Punch” method
Build anticipation for your punchlines by pausing before you deliver them.
Action Step: Practice inserting a brief pause before your key jokes or points. It’s like adding an ellipsis (…) in written text.
Use different voices
When telling stories, use different voices for different characters to make your speech more engaging.
Action Step: Practice imitating the groom’s voice or mannerisms for one short quote in your speech.
Hint at something early in your speech that you’ll fully reveal later.
Action Step: Mention a mysterious object or event at the beginning, then explain its significance towards the end of your speech. Example:
“Hello everyone, I’m Mike, Jeff’s best man. Before I get into it, let me just say one thing: there’s a reason I’m holding this old, worn-out baseball cap.”
Middle of the Speech:
“Jeff and I have been friends since we were kids, and this baseball cap has seen us through countless adventures—catching our first fish, sneaking into the movies, and even when Jeff met Anne at the park.”
“So, why am I holding this cap? It’s a symbol of all the great memories Jeff and I have shared, and now, it’s a symbol of the new memories he’ll make with Anne. Here’s to a lifetime of adventures for the two of you. Cheers!”
Use a “Question Hook”
Engage your audience by asking rhetorical questions.
Action Step : Start your speech with a thought-provoking question like, “What makes a perfect marriage? Well, after knowing John for 15 years, I think I’ve figured it out…”
Bonus: Handling Emotions
It’s totally normal to feel a wave of emotion during your speech (but if you’re not the crying type, feel free to skip this section!). After all, your best bud is getting married! But you don’t want to turn into a blubbering mess in front of everyone. Here’s how to keep it together:
- Practice the Trigger Parts: Identify the parts of your speech that are likely to make you emotional. Practice these sections extra hard so you can get through them smoothly.
- Pause and Breathe: If you feel yourself getting choked up, pause and take a deep breath. It’ll give you a moment to compose yourself and will come across as a thoughtful pause to the audience.
- Have a “Reset Phrase” Ready: Prepare a lighthearted phrase to use if you need to regain composure. Something like, “And this is why I don’t watch romantic comedies,” can lighten the mood and give you a moment to recover.
- Keep Water Handy: A sip of water can help if your throat tightens up from emotion. Plus, it gives you a natural pause in your speech.
- Tensing: If you feel tears coming, try tensing your toes or pressing your tongue to the roof of your mouth. These physical actions can help distract from the emotional response.
Pro Tip: If you do get emotional, don’t apologize. Simply acknowledge it with something like, “Well, I guess this is what happens when your best friend finds his soulmate,” and continue with your speech.
Key Takeaways: Express Gratitude and Sentimentality in 3-5 Minutes
Ultimately, a best man speech is an opportunity to make your best bro look good in front of all his friends and family. Your speech should demonstrate how much you value your brotherhood or friendship. At the same time, you can enjoy 5 minutes of wedding fame without making things all about you. A great toast can make you a memorable celebrity at the wedding and have people laughing at your
Before jumping up at the reception and speaking off the cuff, remember to:
- Outline and plan your speech ahead of time. Use notecards if needed.
- Focus on the groom and his bride. Don’t go on and on about yourself.
- Nail the opening line with a funny joke, quote, or teaser that leads into a great story.
- Avoid inappropriate or cringey topics that could embarrass the groom.
- Express gratitude to the groom and wedding hosts.
Giving a toast or speech is an essential social skill that can make you one of the most likable people in a room. If you want to learn more about the art of giving showstopping toasts, read this guide on How to Give an Awesome Toast: Advanced Strategies for Speeches .
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Pat yourself on the back—you're the best man. It's a good feeling when one of your loved ones asks you to be their right hand for the wedding. Beyond the fun best man duties , like planning an epic bach party , you'll have to give a rousing best man speech. We believe it's arguably the most meaningful duty, but don't let that get you nervous. Whether you're a public speaking pro or have only delivered speeches while on the eighth-grade debate team, boost your chances of making your best man speech a hit by using our helpful tips, ideas and examples for inspiration.
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Printable Template | How to Write | Examples | Tips | FAQs
Printable Best Man Speech Template
Delivering a best man wedding speech doesn't have to feel like a chore. Use the template below as a checklist while you're writing your best man speech.
How to Write a Best Man Speech Outline
We're guessing the thought of crafting a flawless best man speech from scratch feels pretty overwhelming right about now. Start by drafting a bare-bones outline (trust us, drawing up a rough outline is way more palatable than writing a fully fleshed-out speech). You don't need to include every element in your wedding speech . Instead, customize it to fit the couple, the event and your relationship with the groom.
1. Have a killer opening line.
Successful best man speeches always start with a good opener. Introduce yourself and explain your connection to the happy couple. Have fun with this part by sharing a quick joke or quoting a poem so your speech doesn't start off stale. For example, "Hello everyone! For those of you who don't know me, thank you so much for coming to my wedding. [pause for laughter] Sorry about that...I'm a little nervous."
2. Thank the other speakers.
Once you address the audience, give props to the previous speaker to help lead into your speech. If you know your speech has a sillier sentiment, now's your chance to warn your audience in the change of direction. Here's an example: "Let's give it up to the amazing speech given by the wonderful maid of honor . If you enjoyed how thoughtful and sweet her speech was, you better get the tissues ready for this one!"
Next, express your gratitude to the couple's parents. Thank the couples' parents for not only raising incredible adults and, if they helped pay for the wedding, for hosting such a great party. Here's an example: "I'd like to begin by expressing my deepest gratitude to the couples' parents for raising such amazing people, who I'm fortunate to call my best friends. I would also like to thank their parents for hosting such an awesome celebration for all of us to enjoy this evening."
3. Say a few words about your friend's new spouse.
Another writing a best man speech tip is always to give a special shoutout to the new spouse so they feel welcomed and included. Yes, we know you most likely have a closer relationship with the groom, but don't let that stop you from showering them with kind words––it's their big day too. Talk about the qualities you like about them and why you love them in the groom's life. Try this, "I'm so happy [Spouse's Name] fell in love with [Groom's Name]. Firsthand I've seen the grace, intelligence and confidence [Spouse's Name] has, which explains why [Groom's Name] knew he wanted to marry [Spouse's Name] after their first date."
4. Share personal stories.
What's going to make your best man speech stand out are personal stories. We suggest adding one or two anecdotes, like your favorite memories with the groom (and their partner, if you want). Avoid choosing a story that rambles on and has no sentimental or funny ending—keep it lighthearted and short. Here's a silly example, "I remember when we first met in first grade. [Groom's Name] had just glued his hand to his face but still used his free one to shake my hand and ask if I wanted to be his friend."
5. Talk about the couple's relationship.
This is the time to speak about why the groom and their new spouse are a great couple. Share how they first met and how their relationship has grown so other guests can get a better insight into the newlyweds. If you helped the love birds meet, say something like this in your best man speech: "I know I said earlier I'm the best man, but I lied. I'm actually Cupid because I'm the one who introduced these two eight years ago."
6. Propose a toast.
Finally, close out your best man speech with a heartfelt toast. Ask everyone to raise a glass and provide well wishes to the newly married couple. Steal this wedding toast : "Everyone, please join me in raising a glass to such a wonderful couple. I wish you a lifetime of peace, love and happiness. Love you guys!"
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Best man speech examples.
Now that you know how to write the outline, let us provide you with some inspiration. Here are four best man speech ideas for every type of delivery.
Short Best Man Speech Example
Short best man speeches can make the grade just as much as long ones. Try this short but sweet example.
As the poet, Dante once said, 'A great flame follows a little spark.' When [Groom's Name] met [Spouse's Name], there was a little spark. I know because I talked to him the next day.
From the way he talked about [Spouse's Name], this stranger he chatted up at a Halloween party, I could tell this spark was something special.
You two are fantastic together. May the flame burn long, and may sparks continue to fly. Cheers to the newlyweds!
Funny Best Man Speech Example
Funny best man speeches are our favorite. You get to show off your comedic skills while giving loving well-wishes to the happy couple.
Hello! For those who don't know me, I'm [Your Name], the best man. I've known [Groom's Name] since middle school, which means that it was before we learned mullets weren't a good look for either of us.
[Groom's Name] and [Spouse's Name] told me there are some topics I should avoid in this speech so…[Look through cue cards, then shake head and dramatically drop them all to the floor but one.]
[Reading from the remaining cue card] [Groom's Name] is really the best friend I've ever had. He's done so many wonderful things it would be difficult to name them all. Hey, [a Groomsman's Name], I can't read your handwriting here!
But seriously, it's all true. This guy is a great friend, the best I've got, and I'm very proud to stand by his side today.
[Spouse's Name], I was hoping to be the best-looking person in the room today but obviously, I failed miserably. You look beautiful and radiant. I'm beyond happy for the two of you.
May you always find joy in the little things, like your Xbox and 'Star Wars.' Oh wait, that's my personal goal. You should actually find joy in each other, and do everything you can to have a lifetime of happiness together. Let's toast the newlyweds!
Best Man Speech for Brother Example
Need best man speech examples for your brother? Use our speech below as a guide to delivering a sweet message to your older or younger brother.
On my fourth birthday, my parents got me a brother…I wanted a puppy.
But seriously, as a kid [Groom's Name] wanted to do everything I did. He used to follow me around. He used to sneak into my room and play with my Matchbox cars. Our parents could get him to eat his broccoli by making me eat my broccoli.
It wasn't until after I went to college that he started going down his own path. He started doing volunteer work. He found a job he loves, a pretty killer apartment and, of course, he found [Spouse's Name].
[Spouse's Name], you're the nicest person I've ever met, and my brother is so blessed to have someone like you in his life. Thank you for being there for him.
I'm so happy you two found each other especially because I'm gaining a sister today. Oh, and I want to set the record straight. I'm glad I didn't get a puppy that day. I love you, little bro.
Congratulations to both of you. I wish you lots of laughter, love and joy as a married couple. Cheers to the newlyweds!
Best Man Speech for Best Friend Example
For those who need a best man speech sample for their best friend, we got you covered. Here's how to tell your BFF you're happy for them on their special day.
Good evening, everyone! I'm [Your Name], and I'm extremely honored to call myself [Groom's Name]'s best man. Also, please excuse the puffiness under my eyes, I've been happy crying since before the ceremony.
I first met [Groom's Name] while working at a pizza joint called Domenica's while in college. I hated being a server with all my heart, but whenever [Groom's Name] and I were scheduled together, it made it so much more bearable.
We laughed until we cried, ate hundreds of garlic knots and I can't tell you the amount of times we accidentally got pizza dough stuck to the ceiling during our pizza toss competitions. But even after we both quit and moved on to bigger and better things, we still kept in touch and I'm eternally grateful.
One of those bigger and better things was [Spouse's Name]. [Groom's Name] really discovered the perfect piece to his puzzle. [Spouse's Name] laughs at his bad jokes, listens to his long monologues about Batman vs. Superman and most importantly, loves him no matter what. [Spouse's Name] is a phenomenal and caring person who deserves the world, and I know [Groom's Name] will do everything he can to give it to them.
Thank you both for allowing me to be a part of your beautiful wedding, and I can't wait to see what else is in store for you in the future. Love you guys, and cheers to the handsome couple!
Best Man Speech Tips
Good news! We got how to give a best man speech tips from Dominic Bliss, wedding writer and author of Being the Best Man for Dummies. Study up on these helpful pointers below to minimize pre-speech jitters and ensure a smooth delivery.
Plan ahead.
The first tip in our guide on how to write a best man speech is to get started in advance. (As in, do not procrastinate.) "Start writing a best man speech at least two months before the wedding," Bliss says. "As the wedding nears, there are lots of events—suit fittings and a coed shower, perhaps—that could distract you from getting your writing done." Brainstorm and write down any stories, jokes or best man speech quotes you want to include. The more time you have to prepare your best man speech, the better. This way, you'll be able to be fully present at upcoming wedding festivities.
Be genuine.
Whether the wedding guests are strangers or family, it can feel nerve-racking to deliver your best man speech with all eyes on you. To ease the awkwardness, provide anecdotes and stories about your relationship with the couple. Everyone loves a bit of nostalgia, and the guests get to know you better.
With that said, stay true to how you normally act while making your speech. There's no need for you to change who you are for some made-up public speaking persona. If you feel more comfortable cracking jokes throughout your speech, do it. If you are better at being sentimental and don't mind leaving everyone misty-eyed, take that approach. Remember, the couple chose you to speak at their wedding because they felt you could add something special to their big day. As long as you deliver a heartfelt speech, the newlyweds and guests will love it.
Know what topics to avoid.
There are a few topics to omit from the best man speech. No matter how funny you (and even the groom) might think they are, someone is bound to be offended or put off if you mention:
- Negativity about marriage in general.
- Past relationships.
- Previous marriages/divorces.
- Drinking, drugs, gambling.
- "Adult" humor or any other mention of sex.
After all, your best man speech should celebrate the newlywed couple and their love rather than causing future friction. Keep it PG.
Consider adding jokes.
If you want to deliver a funny best man speech, consider poking some fun at the groom. "Every groom will have some funny characteristic or quirk you can ridicule," Bliss notes. "As long as it's something everyone can appreciate, it's sure to get a laugh. Avoid obscure references or inside jokes. You want older guests and those who don't know him well to see the funny side too." Be strategic about your jokes too. You can make jokes about the groom but leave their new spouse alone.
Write it down.
Even those with a great memory will feel more confident with a written speech or at least a few bullet points to keep them on track. Nerves can mess with your memory, so don't think you're a failure if you have to bring notes with you. (Even CEOs do this at corporate events.) Bliss suggests using small note cards instead of a sheet of paper since they "won't flap around."
And yes we know many groomsmen will want to read off their cell phones out of convenience, but wedding planners recommend against it. The lighting from your phone screen can ruin the wedding photographer's photos and can be distracting to guests. Practice writing down your speech instead—it's quite soothing.
Practice with an audience.
This tip is a must when it comes to writing a best man speech. Even if you think you have this whole thing in the bag, practice delivering your wedding speech aloud at least three times. When you're by yourself, take a video and watch the playback to get a feel for how your speech is going. (Do you say "um" between every sentence? Are your gestures a little robotic?) If your friends can't offer critiques in person, "send [the video] to a close friend who won't be going to the wedding and who can give you honest feedback," Bliss recommends.
Finally: don't mumble. A great best man speech becomes boring if it's monotonous or guests are straining to hear you. Speak confidently and slowly.
Best Man Frequently Asked Questions
If this is your first time giving a best man speech, you might have a lot of questions. Here are answers to the top wedding speech inquiries.
How Long Should a Best Man Speech Be?
In general, the best man speech length should be at least three minutes, but no more than five minutes. This is enough time to say something meaningful before guests get too antsy. Of course, you should adjust your speech length to the event. If you're speaking at a last-minute wedding, it might require a brief speech, while a formal affair could call for a longer toast. But you might also be wondering, "how many words should a best man speech be?" We suggest between 700 to 1000 words.
How to Start a Best Man Speech
Begin your speech by addressing the audience and thanking them for attending the wedding. Here's an example, "Hello, everyone. On behalf of the newlyweds, I want to thank everyone for attending this amazing celebration." You can even butter up the crowd by saying how lovely everyone looks this evening. Then, introduce yourself and how you know the groom or couple. This is a great opportunity to add a funny story or memory you have with them that can lead you into the rest of your speech.
How to End a Best Man Speech
Raise your glass and offer a toast wishing the couple a lifetime of happiness, excellent health and success. Your toast can include one final joke or be a marriage quote from your and the groom's favorite movie. Either way, take this chance to sincerely express the newlyweds well. Remember, concluding the speech is the easiest part.
Does the Best Man Have to Give a Speech?
It's not required, but it's expected that the best man gives a speech—especially if the other honor attendants are giving one. If speaking in public makes your stomach turn, consider showing your appreciation for the couple in a different way. We've seen best men do upbeat choreography, sing the couple's favorite song or even present a wedding video they made.
When Does the Best Man Give His Speech?
Following the traditional wedding speech order , the best man speaks after the maid of honor and is the last speech during the reception. There's no need to use this itinerary since the speech order depends on your reception timeline and wedding party size. The to-be-weds might even ask you to deliver your speech during the rehearsal dinner, which most likely will be in front of a smaller audience (score!). Before the wedding and during, double-check with the couple to ensure you know when to give your best man speech so no one has to hunt you down when it's your turn.
The Ultimate Best Man Speech Guide [+ 100 Examples]
You’ve been chosen as the best man. Congrats!
Now, all you need is a killer speech that’s going to wow everyone, make the bride’s grandma laugh, and maybe even bring a tear or two.
Don’t worry, though—you don’t need to be Shakespeare to pull this off. We’re going to take you step by step to help you write a speech that’s heartfelt, funny, and everything in between. You’ll be the toast (literally) of the wedding.
Writing an Unforgettable Best Man Speech
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Writing a best man speech might feel like a lot of pressure, but just follow these steps, and you’ll be more than ready to make everyone laugh, cry, and cheer.
Step 1: Introduce Yourself with Confidence
- Start with your name and how you know the groom.
- Keep it light: “For those of you who don’t know me, I’m [Name], and I’ve known [Groom] since we both thought bleach-blonde hair was a good idea.”
- Be brief here—people want to know who you are, not your life story.
Why this is important : Introducing yourself helps establish your role in the event and gives context for your speech. It sets a friendly tone and ensures that everyone knows who you are, especially if they don’t know you personally. Be sure to keep it brief, as people are there for the couple, not a detailed biography of you.
Aim to start on a positive note that invites people to listen, like a quick, humorous comment about your relationship with the groom.
Tips and troubleshooting : Practice this part in front of a mirror or with friends. If you find you’re rambling, cut out anything that isn’t immediately relevant to establishing your connection with the groom. Confidence is key here, even if you’re nervous. Remember, everyone wants you to succeed.
Step 2: Break the Ice with a Good Story
- Share a funny or touching anecdote about the groom—something that highlights his personality.
- Avoid anything too embarrassing (especially anything involving exes, or college dares that almost ended in a trip to the ER).
- Example: “I remember when [Groom] missed the big game to help me fix my car. That’s just the kind of guy he is.”
- The goal is to show his character not publicly humiliate him.
Why this is important : Sharing a story is a great way to break the ice and connect with the audience. It helps paint a picture of who the groom is, and why he’s someone special to you. The story should illustrate a positive trait about the groom—something that makes people understand why he’s a great friend and partner.
Tips and troubleshooting : Keep the story relatable and steer clear of anything that might make the groom cringe or anyone else uncomfortable. Practice telling the story to make sure it flows naturally. Aim for a balance between humor and sentiment, making sure it’s something the bride’s family will also appreciate.
Step 3: Compliment the Bride (or Partner)
- Genuinely say something nice about the bride or partner. Make it specific, like how they bring out the best in the groom or how they’re always welcoming.
- Example: “When [Bride] came into [Groom’s] life, it was like he discovered a new best friend. And let me tell you, seeing them binge a whole Netflix series in one weekend… they’re clearly meant to be.”
Tips for avoiding clichés : Be sure to make your compliment genuine. Instead of relying on generic phrases like ‘She’s perfect for him,’ try to use specific observations that highlight the uniqueness of their relationship. Mention a particular moment or quality that truly stands out about them as a couple. This will make your speech more memorable and heartfelt.
Why this is important : Complimenting the bride shows respect and appreciation for the couple’s relationship. It highlights how the bride completes the groom and elevates the speech beyond just your friendship. Specific compliments also help make your speech more memorable and heartfelt.
Tips and troubleshooting : Be sure to make your compliment genuine. Avoid clichés and think about something you’ve observed about their relationship that others will recognize too. If you’re unsure, ask the groom about a special quality he admires in the bride—that can help guide you.
Step 4: Focus on the Relationship
- Talk about how great the couple is together. Mention a few things that make them a perfect match.
- “Together, they’re like peanut butter and jelly. It just makes sense.”
- Keep it light, and don’t overthink this—just focus on what makes their dynamic so great.
Why this is important : Highlighting the relationship between the bride and groom allows everyone to see the bigger picture—their love story. It ties your anecdotes together and shows that this isn’t just about your friendship with the groom, but about the amazing couple they’ve become.
Tips and troubleshooting : Avoid going too deep or making it sound rehearsed. Think about a few things that make them click—like how they share hobbies, laugh together, or support each other through challenges. Specific examples will help make this part resonate with the audience.
Step 5: Add a Touch of Sentiment
- Don’t be afraid to get a little serious for a moment. It’s okay to let everyone feel the love in the room.
- “[Groom], you’ve always been there for me, and seeing the happiness [Bride] brings you… I’ve never seen you smile like this.”
- Just one or two heartfelt lines can make all the difference.
Why this is important : Adding a moment of genuine sentiment makes your speech memorable and connects emotionally with the audience. It reminds everyone why they are there—to celebrate love. This part is crucial for balance, offering a brief break from humor for a heartfelt moment.
Tips and troubleshooting : If you’re uncomfortable getting too emotional, keep it short and sweet. One or two lines that convey what you truly feel about the groom and bride are enough. Practice this part a few times to avoid getting overly choked up, but don’t be afraid of a little emotion—it shows you care. To balance sentimentality with humor, consider ending a heartfelt line with a light, playful comment.
This will keep the mood from becoming too heavy and help maintain an uplifting tone throughout your speech.
Step 6: The Cheers & Closing
- End with a simple toast: “Here’s to [Bride] and [Groom], may your life be filled with laughter and love.”
- Keep it short, but put your heart into it. Everyone wants to raise their glass, not sit through a 5-minute conclusion.
Why this is important : The ending is what ties everything together and brings it to a celebratory peak. It signals that it’s time for everyone to raise their glasses and join in celebrating the couple. A clear and concise toast leaves everyone with positive feelings.
Tips and troubleshooting : Make sure the toast is practiced and flows smoothly. Keep it short and avoid trying to add last-minute jokes or stories. The key here is sincerity and brevity—give everyone the signal that it’s time to celebrate together, and they’ll love you for it.
For a real example, watch this funny and brief best man speech video:
100 Examples for Best Man Speeches
To help you even more, here’s a collection of 100 examples of best man speech lines, toasts, and anecdotes you can mix and match or just use for inspiration:
- “The first time I met [Bride], I knew she was the one because she laughed at [Groom’s] terrible jokes.”
- “[Groom] and I have been friends since the first day of school. He was the guy who shared his lunch with me when I forgot mine. Today, he’s found someone to share his life with.”
- “[Groom] is a lot of things—loyal, kind, and stubborn enough to run a marathon because he lost a bet. But I think [Bride] would agree that he’s also a genuinely good man.”
- “When I asked [Groom] what he loved most about [Bride], he said, ‘She makes every day feel like an adventure.’ Seeing them together, I get it.”
- “To [Groom]: I’m proud of you, man. To [Bride]: Good luck—you’re going to need it. Just kidding, love you both!
- “The thing about [Groom] is, he’s always been the guy who’s there for you. Whether it’s 3 AM and you’re broken down by the side of the road or you just need someone to talk to, he’s always ready to help. And now, he’s found someone who’s just as amazing to share his life with.”
- “I knew [Groom] had met someone special when he voluntarily gave up his fantasy football weekend to go on a surprise date. [Bride], you’re a miracle worker.”
- “The first time [Bride] met [Groom’s] family, I remember she brought homemade cookies. It was over right then. Not only did she win their hearts, but [Groom] couldn’t stop raving about how ‘perfect’ she was. He knew from the very beginning, and honestly, so did all of us.”
- “To [Groom]: Remember when we used to dream about finding ‘the one’? Well, you found her, my friend. And she’s even better than we ever imagined.”
- “[Groom] always said he wanted someone who would make him laugh every single day, and that’s exactly what [Bride] does. I don’t think I’ve ever seen him so happy, and it’s all because of you.”
- “Seeing the way [Groom] looks at [Bride], it’s pretty obvious—he’s head over heels. And [Bride], we can all see that you bring out the very best in him.”
- “The day [Groom] met [Bride] was the day he stopped using the phrase ‘I don’t do mornings.’ For her, he’d do anything, and that speaks volumes.”
- “When [Bride] came into [Groom’s] life, he suddenly became a much better dresser. I think I speak for everyone when I say, thank you, [Bride].”
- “To [Bride], thank you for making one of my best friends an even better person. And [Groom], congrats on finding someone truly extraordinary.”
- “To [Groom]: May your coffee be strong, and your marriage even stronger. To [Bride]: Good luck handling this one. Just kidding—you two are perfect together!”
- “[Groom] always had the wildest sense of adventure, and now he’s found someone who matches that energy. Together, there’s no doubt you’ll have a lifetime full of incredible experiences.”
- “I never thought I’d see the day when [Groom] would willingly attend a pottery class. But for [Bride], he’s ready to be Mr. Arts and Crafts.”
- “To [Groom]: You were always the guy who pushed me to take chances. Today, you’ve made the best decision of your life by marrying [Bride].”
- “The way [Bride] and [Groom] care for each other—it’s inspiring. And I mean that in the least cheesy way possible. They’re just genuinely meant for each other.”
- “When [Groom] started making his own pasta sauce from scratch, I knew he was serious about [Bride]. She’s brought out the best version of him.”
- “To [Bride]: You’re the perfect mix of sweet and fierce, and you’ve got [Groom] wrapped around your finger—but in the best way.”
- “They say love is about finding someone you can share everything with, and for [Groom], that’s definitely [Bride]. They’re each other’s biggest fans.”
- “One thing I love about [Groom] and [Bride] is how they’re always laughing, no matter what. Their joy is infectious, and I know they’ll keep that spirit alive for the rest of their lives.”
- “To [Groom]: Here’s to the adventures ahead, the wild moments, and the quiet ones too. You found someone who’ll make every single one of them better.”
- “When I first saw [Groom] and [Bride] together, it felt like they’d been a team forever. They just fit perfectly.”
- “The first time [Groom] talked about [Bride], I could tell she was different. He didn’t just tell me about her—he couldn’t stop smiling while he did.”
- “[Bride], thank you for giving [Groom] something I could never provide—true love and a reason to grow up. Just kidding, but really, thank you.”
- “To [Bride], you’re the kind of person who can light up any room, and now you’ve lit up [Groom’s] entire world.”
- “To [Groom]: You found someone who makes you laugh and loves you even when you’re at your worst—hold onto her forever.”
- “One of the best things about [Bride] and [Groom] is how they’ve always got each other’s backs. They make being in love look easy.”
- “Seeing [Bride] and [Groom] dance together, it’s clear that they’re not just in love—they really, truly like each other, too.”
- “To [Groom]: You’re lucky to have [Bride], and I think we all know that. But honestly, [Bride], you’re lucky too—because no one can make you laugh quite like this guy.”
- “I remember when [Groom] told me he’d met [Bride], and it was like he’d found something he didn’t even know he was looking for.”
- “[Bride] brings out the best in [Groom], and that’s saying a lot because he was already a pretty great guy.”
- “To [Bride] and [Groom]: May your journey together be filled with love, laughter, and plenty of bad puns, courtesy of [Groom].”
- “I always knew [Groom] would end up with someone amazing, and [Bride] is everything and more. To see them together is to understand what true love really looks like.”
- “To [Groom]: You’ve found the one who gets your weird sense of humor, and that’s all we can really ask for in life, isn’t it?”
- “They say opposites attract, but I think [Groom] and [Bride] are proof that sometimes the best match is someone who’s just like you—funny, kind, and amazing.”
- “To [Groom]: Thank you for being my friend all these years, and thank you for bringing someone as wonderful as [Bride] into all our lives.”
- “It’s not often you meet two people so perfectly matched that you can’t picture them with anyone else. That’s what [Bride] and [Groom] are—a perfect fit.”
- “The day [Groom] introduced me to [Bride], I could tell this was different. He was happier than I’d ever seen him, and it’s easy to see why—[Bride] is incredible.”
- “To [Groom]: May your life be full of endless joy, and to [Bride]: May you always have patience for [Groom’s] questionable karaoke choices.”
- “One of the greatest things about [Bride] is that she’s not just [Groom’s] partner—she’s also his best friend.”
- “The love between [Groom] and [Bride] is the kind that makes you believe in happy endings, and I’m honored to be here celebrating with them today.”
- “When [Groom] and [Bride] are together, they bring out a kind of light that makes everyone else want to be near them.”
- “To [Bride], thank you for making my friend happier than I’ve ever seen him. To [Groom], you did good, buddy.”
- “To [Groom] and [Bride]: May you always look at each other like you do today—with love, admiration, and just a little bit of mischief.”
- “Love is a beautiful thing, and [Groom] and [Bride] are proof that when it’s right, it’s simply meant to be.”
- “The way [Groom] and [Bride] make each other smile—it’s what we all hope to find in a partner.”
- “To [Bride] and [Groom]: Here’s to laughter, adventures, and a lifetime of making amazing memories together.
- “To [Groom]: You’ve always been my partner in crime, and now you’ve found someone who’s willing to take on that role for the rest of your life. Lucky guy!”
- “I knew [Groom] was serious about [Bride] when he actually started getting to places on time. She’s had a good influence on him already.”
- “The way [Groom] and [Bride] look at each other is the kind of love we all dream about. It’s real, and it’s beautiful.”
- “To [Groom]: You found your perfect partner, someone who makes you laugh, shares your dreams, and always has your back.”
- “To [Bride] and [Groom]: May your marriage be full of love, laughter, and countless inside jokes.”
- “When I see [Groom] and [Bride] together, I see two people who were always meant to find each other.”
- “To [Bride] and [Groom]: May you always find adventure in the smallest of things and always see the good in each other.”
- “To [Groom]: You’ve always been a great friend, and now you’re going to be an even better husband. [Bride], you’ve got yourself a keeper.”
- “They say good things come to those who wait, and [Groom] certainly waited to find someone as amazing as [Bride].”
- “To [Bride] and [Groom]: You are proof that true love is worth the wait.”
- “The way [Bride] makes [Groom] smile says more than words ever could.”
- “To [Bride] and [Groom]: May your love grow stronger with each passing day, and may your life together be filled with joy.”
- “I’ve seen [Groom] at his best and at his worst, and it’s clear to me that [Bride] is the reason he’s always striving to be better.”
- “To [Groom]: You’re one of the most genuine people I know, and now you’ve found someone who loves you for it.”
- “To [Bride]: You make [Groom] the happiest I’ve ever seen him, and I’m so glad you two found each other.”
- “The love between [Bride] and [Groom] is the kind that makes everyone around them smile.”
- “To [Groom]: You found someone who loves you for all that you are, and that’s the best gift of all.”
- “May your marriage be filled with all the love, laughter, and joy in the world. To [Bride] and [Groom]!”
- “To [Groom]: You’ve found your perfect match in [Bride], and I know you’re going to be an amazing husband.”
- “[Bride] and [Groom], you two are made for each other, and it’s easy to see how much you care about one another.”
- “To [Bride]: You have made [Groom] happier than I ever thought possible, and I’m so happy to celebrate with you today.”
- “May your days together be filled with love, your nights with peace, and your lives with happiness.”
- “[Bride] has brought out a side of [Groom] that I never knew existed—one that’s even more amazing than I thought possible.”
- “May you always be each other’s rock, and may you always know that you have a friend in me.”
- “To [Bride] and [Groom]: May your life together be as happy and joyful as this day.”
- “I have no doubt that [Bride] and [Groom] will have a marriage filled with love and laughter.”
- “To [Groom]: You’ve always been there for me, and now you have [Bride], who will always be there for you.”
- “The love you share is an inspiration to us all, and I’m so happy to be a part of this special day.”
- “To [Bride] and [Groom]: May you always see the best in each other, even on the hardest days.”
- “The best part of today is knowing that [Groom] and [Bride] have found their forever.”
- “To [Groom]: You’ve found your true love, your partner in crime, and the one who makes every day better.”
- “The way [Groom] looks at [Bride] says it all—she’s his everything, and I couldn’t be happier for you both.”
- “May your love story be one for the ages, filled with laughter, adventures, and, most importantly, each other.”
- “To [Bride]: You’ve got a great man by your side, and [Groom], you’ve got an amazing woman to share your life with.”
- “To [Groom] and [Bride]: May your love be as deep as the ocean and your adventures as endless as the stars.”
- “The best thing about today is that [Groom] and [Bride] get to start the rest of their lives together.”
- “May your marriage be full of love, your home full of laughter, and your hearts always full of joy.”
- “To [Bride] and [Groom]: You two are proof that soulmates really do exist.”
- “The love you share is something special, and I know it’s going to grow even stronger as time goes on.”
- “To [Groom]: You’ve always been a great friend, but I know you’re going to be an even better husband.”
- “To [Bride] and [Groom]: You’ve found the kind of love that’s rare and beautiful, and I’m so happy for you both.”
- “May your marriage be like a great wine—improving with age, and always a pleasure to share.”
- “To [Groom]: You’ve found someone who makes every day brighter, and I know you’ll always make her smile.”
- “May your love be the kind that never stops growing and your happiness the kind that’s always shared.”
- “To [Bride]: Thank you for making [Groom] the happiest I’ve ever seen him.”
- “To [Groom]: You’ve found your forever love, and I’m so proud to be here today to witness it.”
- “To [Bride] and [Groom]: May you always find joy in the little things and love in every moment.”
- “The love that [Groom] and [Bride] share is something to celebrate, today and always.”
- “To [Groom]: You’ve found someone who loves you as much as you deserve, and that’s saying a lot.”
- “To [Bride] and [Groom]: May your journey together be full of love, laughter, and endless adventures.””
Fill-in-the-Blank Templates
I don’t know about you, but I love a good template.
So, I came up with these tried-and-true templates to get you started on your best man speech.
Template 1: Classic Humor with Heart
“Hello everyone, I’m [Name]. I’ve known [Groom] for [years], and honestly, it’s amazing to be standing here today. I remember the time [insert funny but appropriate story about Groom], and that’s when I knew this guy would always be in my life.
When [Bride] came into the picture, everything just clicked. She’s smart, funny, and more importantly, she keeps [Groom] in check! Let’s raise a glass to the happy couple, and to a lifetime of love, laughter, and endless adventures.”
Template 2: Short and Sentimental
“Hi, I’m [Name]. I’ve been friends with [Groom] for a long time, and it’s an honor to be his best man today. Seeing [Groom] and [Bride] together, it’s obvious how much they love each other—they bring out the best in each other.
Let’s all raise our glasses to [Groom] and [Bride]—may your life be filled with happiness and your love grow stronger every day.”
Template 3: The Storyteller
“Hello everyone, my name is [Name], and I’ve known [Groom] since [specific time]. Today, I want to share a story that really shows who [Groom] is as a person. [Tell a story that highlights Groom’s character—something funny, endearing, or impressive].
When [Bride] came along, it was clear that she was the missing piece. Together, they make an incredible team, and I can’t think of anyone better for my friend. So, let’s all raise our glasses to [Bride] and [Groom]—to a lifetime of stories and adventures.”
Template 4: Sentimental with a Touch of Humor
“Good evening, everyone. I’m [Name], and I’ve had the privilege of knowing [Groom] for [years]. I’ve seen him at his best and his worst, and I can confidently say that [Bride] brings out the best in him every single day. They’re a perfect match—not because they’re perfect, but because they’re perfect for each other.
[Add a light-hearted joke or observation here]. Let’s all raise a glass to [Bride] and [Groom]—may your love grow stronger every day, and may you always laugh together, even through the tough times.”
Template 5: Straightforward and Heartfelt
“Hi everyone, I’m [Name]. It’s truly an honor to stand here today for [Groom] and [Bride]. I’ve watched [Groom] grow over the years, and meeting [Bride] has been the highlight of that journey.
Together, they complement each other in the most beautiful way. [Groom] is lucky to have found someone so caring, smart, and loving. And [Bride], you’ve got yourself a genuinely great guy. Let’s all raise our glasses to their love—may it be eternal, adventurous, and full of laughter.”
Do’s and Don’ts Table
To help you do all the right things while avoiding all the wrong things, check out this handy do’s and definitely don’t do table:
Checklist: Don’t Forget These Essentials!
Save this quick checklist for “your” big day:
- Introduce yourself: Make sure everyone knows who you are and how you know the groom.
- Tell a great story: Share a funny or touching memory about the groom—nothing too embarrassing.
- Compliment the bride/partner: Mention something specific that shows how great they are.
- Talk about the couple: Keep it light and positive about how great they are together.
- Get sentimental: A line or two to tug on the heartstrings.
- Make a toast: Keep it simple but heartfelt.
- Keep it short: Aim for 5-7 minutes, max. Nobody wants to listen to a novel.
Final Thoughts: Best Man Speech
Being the best man is an honor, but it’s also your chance to shine and show how much you care about the couple.
A well-crafted speech can make a wedding even more memorable—not just for the bride and groom, but for everyone in attendance. Stick to these steps, use the examples and templates as inspiration, and most importantly, just speak from the heart.
You’ve got this!
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How to Write a Best Man Speech in 9 Simple Steps
Been tasked to write a best man speech and not sure where to start? Follow these easy rules for how to write a best man speech—and how to deliver it like a total pro.
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Being enlisted as someone's best man is a big deal, and there are plenty of best man duties involved—including figuring out how to write a best man speech. Yes, it’s tradition for the best man to give a wedding speech during the reception, so it’s time to prep for that responsibility. If you’re feeling a little nervous about giving a toast in front of a crowd, that’s totally normal, especially if public speaking isn’t your forte. But with a little forethought, planning, and a lot of practice, you’ll be wowing everyone with your best man speech in no time. Here are nine steps to writing a short best man speech that's sweet and to the point—and how you can ace the delivery.
How to Write a Great Best Man Speech
Follow this best man speech template to easily get started when it's time to write your own wedding toast.
1. Plan out your best man speech ahead of time.
Presuming you’re not reading this the night before the wedding, you should give yourself plenty of time—at least one month—to write your best man speech. The weeks leading up to the wedding day, especially participating as such a crucial part of the wedding party, can become hectic. With all of the events you’ll be encouraged or required to attend (on top of keeping up with your own personal life), you may very well lose sight of time. It’s better to plan ahead so you relieve some of the pressure when it's time to write an awesome best man speech.
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2. start your best man speech by expressing gratitude..
If you’re wondering how to write a best man speech, we recommend beginning the speech by stepping onto the dance floor and saying good evening to the crowd (you can write this as a note at the top of your speech as a reminder in case you get nervous). The opening line of your speech should introduce yourself as the best man and then express gratitude to those you think deserve a special shout out. Thank the couple’s parents for raising such great people, thank your friend for having you here, thank the guests for coming, and maybe throw in a one-liner thanking the bartender for a few laughs. It’s a low-key way to break the ice, ease yourself into the best man speech, and make sure those who deserve thanks feel appreciated.
3. Then, talk about your relationship with the groom.
Beyond introducing your name, a big part of how to write a best man speech is talking about your relationship with the groom. Talk about how you met him, how long you've known each other, and what kind of great friend he is. If you can think of an anecdote or funny story that really sums up the kind of person he is, whether that’s charming, warm-hearted, or thoughtful, use it. A funny best man speech is always memorable, but if you’re going to use an anecdote, linking that story to his partner when possible will make it even more meaningful. For example, maybe he’s incredibly outgoing but forgetful, while his new spouse is more thoughtful and organized. If you start with an anecdote of his forgetfulness and later follow up with a time you saw his partner’s organizational skills help him out big time—and that’s a moment you knew they were the real deal—that’s a perfect icebreaker.
4. Focus on the couple's relationship, and not just your own.
Presuming you’ve known the groom for longer than he’s know his partner, you can definitely start your best man toast by sharing an inside joke and recalling the earlier times in your friendship, but then you should skip ahead to when he met his partner. Think of a story that epitomizes their relationship. If you can talk about the exact moment when you realized his partner was “The One” for him, include that. Maybe your buddy told you one week after meeting his partner that they were going to get married, and you thought he was absolutely bonkers, but here you are. Maybe you’ve known the groom for a long, long time—for example, if you’re his brother or you've been best friends since elementary school. You’ve probably always had an idea of what his perfect partner would look like, but the one sitting in front of you exceeds all expectations. Emphasize that he's a great guy and how happy you are for your pal that he’s found someone so perfect for him.
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5. Keep your best man speech short and sweet.
In terms of wedding speech order , the best man speech is typically first, followed by the maid of honor's toast and parent speeches or father-of-the-bride-speech . Even though you'll go first, a good best man speech is short and sweet, since you want to avoid people growing restless during the later speeches (guests are ready to eat, drink, and dance at this point of the wedding reception). Aim for a short best man speech between three and five minutes max. Keep in mind that it will feel much shorter to you when you’re actually giving the speech, and you will likely rush through it a little bit in the spotlight. That’s why you must…
7. Practice, practice, practice.
One of the most crucial best man speech tips is that you have to—and we mean have to— practice your speech before the wedding. You should read it to yourself out loud at least three or four times ahead of the actual reception. It might feel awkward at first, but would you rather fumble your words alone in private with the chance to make improvements, or give your speech for the first time while being watched by dozens of people with camera phones? Record yourself giving the speech, then replay it for mistakes and things to change. Not only is practice critical to giving the best performance, but it will give you a confidence boost when the big moment arrives. Consider sending the video to a friend, other groomsmen, or relative to give you honest feedback.
7. Write it down.
You should try to memorize your best man toast as best you can, but you’ll feel less anxious if you have it written down. Practice your speech enough so you won’t need to stare at the piece of paper the entire time, but jot down the main talking points to easily transition from one part to the next. Consider using notecards or a small notepad—remember that there's going to be professional photography and videography of your best man speech. Reading from a haphazardly torn piece of scrap paper or worse, your hand, will look sloppy and indicate that you didn’t prepare for the speech.
8. Don’t drink beforehand.
Keep your alcohol intake to a minimum until after you’re finished delivering the best man speech. It's normal to want to calm your nerves, but anything more than one drink during cocktail hour could backfire—alcohol paired with intense nerves and emotions will only amplify them (and you run the risk of slurring your speech!). The more you drink, the less likely you'll be able to remember what you've planned and form cohesive thoughts in the spotlight. Once your speech is over, you'll have time to celebrate all you want.
9. Finish your best man speech with congratulations and a toast.
This is a foolproof way to end your best man speech. Conclude by congratulating the happy couple on their big day and offer a toast to their lifetime of happiness. The toast can be personal, witty, or a quote. Perhaps there’s a line about love and relationships from one of the groom’s favorite comedians or movies that you can share, or you can simply wish the newlyweds the best and ask your fellow guests to raise their glasses in celebration.
Things to Avoid In a Best Man Speech
In order to write a good speech, you want to keep the focus off yourself and instead on the happy couple and their future. In general, it's best to steer clear of these things:
1. Inappropriate anecdotes.
Your pal's grandmother definitely does not need to hear about that one infamous night in college, no matter how relevant or funny it might seem to your buddies. Leave those drunken tales and embarrassing stories for the bachelor party and keep your best man speech PG.
2. Any talk of exes.
Your friend's wedding is absolutely not the time to bring up ex-girlfriends or previous relationships. No matter a how good a story you think it is, or even if it leads directly to the moment you're all in now, just leave it out completely—trust us.
3. Foul language.
Sensing a theme here? You want to make sure your best man speech is well received by everyone, from the 80-year-old guests to the 8-year-old guests. Remember: A wedding is a family event, so it's best to leave out any profanity or other PG-13 talk.
4. Long-winded stories.
As mentioned previously, you want to keep your best man speech short and sweet. As great as your speech is going to be, the last thing you want is for the wedding guests to tune out halfway through your time in the spotlight. If a story needs more than a few sentences to explain, either pare it down or consider a different approach for writing your best man speech.
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Being picked to be the best man is such a great honor. You will feel blessed that the groom has thought of you, and considers you the best man and friend for the job.
But, as the wedding draws nearer, there’s one thing on your mind. No, it’s not the bachelor party… It’s the best man’s speech(see also: Best Ways to End Your Best Man’s Speech ).
As the best man, you will likely have many responsibilities in the run up towards the wedding. You’ll have to try on suits, organize the bachelor party, but the best man speech is the thing that most look forward to, or dread!
Standing up in front of many guests, some of which you may not have met before can be nerve wracking to say the least. It’s such an important task, and a part of the wedding that many guests look forward to.
A best man speech needs to hook the audience in, reveal some funny stories about the groom, and even the bride, but also wish the couple well, and spread some laughter amongst the audience.
But, you have to do all of this in one single speech that can’t be too long, and can’t be too short!
So, how can you nail the best man speech? Well, that’s where we come in handy. We can offer you this ultimate guide to creating a best man speech, including tips, structure and examples you can take inspiration from.
How To Structure A Best Man Speech
Not everyone is gifted with the ability to speak clearly and confidently to a crowd. It can be very nerve racking, and make you anxious to say the least.
If you’re unsure of how to go about planning your best man speech, then we can help you out with this simple structure to follow and keep yourself on track.
This structure is a sort of guide, you don’t have to use it, but it’s a good idea to follow the structure so you cover all bases when doing the speech.
It can also help you when actually performing the speech, as you’ll know what needs to come next and in which order to go over your stories and anecdotes.
A good best man speech begins with:
- An Introduction
Use the introduction to introduce yourself to the crowd. Not everyone will know who you are in the wedding, so it’s a nice way to break the ice and get rid of any awkwardness.
Try introducing yourself with a funny one liner about who you are and how you know the happy couple.
- Talk About How You Met/Know The Groom
Next, it’s a good idea to briefly cover how you met the groom, or how long you’ve known each other. You can give a little history of how far back you go, and mention how honored you are to be the best man.
- Anecdotes About The Groom
Here comes the fun part! Now is the time to start telling a funny story about the groom. The emphasis here is on funny and not too embarrassing or gross. Choose two or three short anecdotes or stories, but don’t overdo it.
- Balance Poking Fun With Sincerity
After you’ve had your fun, balance this out by saying something meaningful and sincere about the groom, his qualities or your friendship.
- Briefly Talk About How You Know The Bride
In this section, you can talk about your first meeting with the bride, how she came into the groom’s life, and how great of a match you believe them to be.
- Wish Them All The Best
Finally, wish the couple all the best for their future together with a sincere, caring comment. Then, toast to the happy couple!
Best Man Speech Do’s And Don’ts
There are definitely a few do’s and don’ts when it comes to speaking at someone’s wedding. You’ll want to keep it concise, funny, but not too over the top jokey. Here’s our recommendations of what to do, and what not to do.
First things first, you’ll want to plan ahead, and write a few stories and anecdotes down that you can remember. Do this for a few weeks before the wedding, so it gives you time to come up with the right memories to share.
Try brainstorming ideas with other members of the family or bridal party to come up with the best things to share about the groom and his bride. Then, you can narrow down the list and find the most impactful or most important things to talk about.
You should also consider who this speech is going to be said around.
If the groom’s very traditional great aunt or grandma is there, it could be a good idea to avoid any crass, rude stories that could make family members uncomfortable. Save those lines for the bachelor party!
Do pause for reactions. You don’t want to talk too fast or fly through the speech as those who have laughed at the last line may miss the next one. Always leave small gaps or pauses for reactions, applause or responses.
Finally, make sure you focus on the couple, not just the groom.
This day is about the two of them. While you are doing a speech because you are the best man to the groom, it is important that you bring in the bride/partner in your speech so that overall you are wishing both of them well on their new adventure.
What Not To Do
Don’t wing it! You may have some liquid courage on the night, but you need this speech to be a crowd pleaser, so be sure to take your notes and go over the speech in your head just before you have to do it.
Don’t use foul language, or inflammatory language. You don’t want to cause a dark cloud over the event by offending anyone or causing a scene.
The same goes for mentioning exes (who could well be at the wedding) or bringing up sore subjects during the speech. Keep it fun, lighthearted, and hilarious.
Don’t use cliches like The groom is like a brother to me. Instead, demonstrate your close bond by telling a story or giving an example of when he treated you like family, and made you feel welcome.
This is far more impactful and will really get the audience involved in your speech.
Finally, and this is an important one- don’t make it about you. This is not your shining moment, your time will come.
Ensure you’re not talking about yourself too much, and always bringing it back to the bride and groom, because that’s what the audience really wants to hear about.
It’s a chance for them to see the couple in a different light, from your perspective, not learn everything about you.
Tips For Writing A Best Man Speech
We’ve also got some brief tips for writing and performing your best man speech!
- Practice before the actual speech
- Don’t include inside jokes- they will fall on deaf ears
- Keep it short and sweet – don’t go over the top with long stories/memories
- Don’t use cringey cliches
- Don’t mention exes- even as a joke
- Use clean language
- Don’t say anything political/inflammatory
- Tell a story about the groom and the couple as a pair
- Don’t just focus on the groom
- Always end on a high – make a nice toast and comment about the couple
Qualities To Talk About In The Best Man Speech
Throughout your speech, it is important to keep a running theme. If the joke you are telling is unrelated, it won’t have as much drive and impact.
For instance, if you’re talking about the groom’s thoughtfulness, use funny anecdotes that relate to this, and bring it back to that whenever possible.
Here are some other qualities that are worth mentioning:
- Sense of humor: If the groom is known for his quick wit and humor, be sure to incorporate this into your speech. Share a funny story or two that showcases his sense of humor and make the guests laugh.
- Generosity: If the groom is known for his kindness and generosity, talk about a specific instance where he went out of his way to help someone in need. This will show the guests the type of person he truly is.
- Loyalty: Mention the groom’s unwavering loyalty to his friends and family. Talk about how he has been there for you and others in the past and how this trait is so important in a relationship.
- Intelligence: If the groom is intelligent and knowledgeable, highlight this in your speech. Talk about his impressive achievements or interests that show his intelligence and passion.
- Adventure: If the groom is someone who is always up for a new adventure, talk about his love for travel or exploring new things. This will show the guests his spontaneous and adventurous side.
For example, you could say:
Where do I begin with the groom’s sharp sense of humor? He’s a true master of wit, who can leave even the most experienced comedian in awe. A particularly memorable instance was when him and his bride went on a picnic; after he inadvertently dropped their sandwiches into a nearby pond, he remarked ‘Well, it looks like we’re having fish sandwiches today!’. The bride couldn’t help but laugh out loud at how quickly he turned an unfortunate situation into something humorous – that is simply the type of person this groom is.
Groom has always had a very caring, loving nature. He would do anything for anyone. Except that one time I asked him to water my plants while I was on vacation. He brought all of the guys over to ‘water my plants’! Thanks for that, Groom. Just kidding, Groom is incredibly thoughtful and compassionate towards all who meet him, which is a quality I believe brought him closer to Bride.
You want to talk about his great qualities, poke a little fun, or share a funny story, but then talk about how these qualities have translated into his relationship with his partner, or how they have brought them closer together.
Best Man Speech Examples
Good evening everyone. For those of you who don’t know me, I’m Tom, younger brother and best man of the groom. For those of you that do know me…heeeeeeey!
I have known Jack for…X years now (your age) and have always looked up to him. He had it all, the career, the intelligence, the sense of humor, and now the girl. Then again, I got the good looks.
In all seriousness, I have always looked up to my big brother. He’s always had a flair for sports, and genuinely has a heart of gold.
Being the youngest of the two of us, Jack has made me a better man, mainly because of the character building he put me through as a child. Jack would love taunting me by stealing my favorite stuffed animals.
I cherished my favorite, Mr. Snuggles, until one day Jack told me to come downstairs and see the new toy that our Rottweiler had been given.
I was so excited to see our little furry boy happy and playing with his toy until I realized that Jack had offered up Mr. Snuggles in sacrifice with a huge grin on his face. It was a day I won’t forget.
Despite the taunting and the terrorizing, Jack has been the man that I’ve always aspired to be. In all of the years I’ve been around Jack, he’s always been tenacious and worked hard for what he wants. And he’s always gotten it.
After asking Jenny out the first time, and she said no , he didn’t give up. He knew she was the one for him! It’s a good thing he has the patience of a saint, as it took another 3 attempts to get the first date!
With Jack being the older, but not often the wiser brother, he managed to get himself into some mishaps in the past.
When he did finally get a chance to take Jenny out on a date, he turned up at the wrong house, and managed to slip and break his shoulder all in one fantastic, first meeting with the parents.
Smoooth, brother. At least he made it an unforgettable start to their journey together.
With Jenny at his side, Jack’s clumsy mishaps are less and less. You truly bring out the best in him, Jen. I would say welcome to the family, but you’ve been a part of our lives for some time already, and I am truly blessed to be able to call you my new sister.
From day one, you’ve fit right in, as you too have taken on the role of teasing Jack just as I wanted. Let me tell you guys, there have been many pranks that Jenny and I have pulled off on Jack.
One time, we hid all of his left shoes, until the confusion nearly drove him to madness…and he had to deliver his board meeting like some kind of two right footed lunatic.
Other times, we’ve hidden around the house just when Jack is coming home from a long day at the office, to ambush him with Nerf guns until he pleads for mercy! Let’s just say justice has been served for Mr. Snuggles.
I quickly realized that Jenny and Jack were cut from the same mold. You two are a real example of what it means to marry your best friend, and I can’t wait to see what the future holds for the two of you.
So everyone, if you could raise your glass…and toast- to the bride and groom!
Hi everyone! For those of you who don’t know me already, I am Zach, the best man of James! When James asked me to be the best man I felt like it was such an honor.
Then he reminded me that it’s not just about organizing the bachelor party and I have to actually come to the wedding so…here I am.
I’ve known James for so many years now, having met him at high school. In those years, it’s become clear what a fantastic friend he is. He’s handsome, kind, brilliant, funny…and sorry (looks at Groom) mate I can’t read your handwriting here. I’ll just wing it.
Just kidding. Me and James have been through thick and thin. I’ve watched him go from a weedy, awkward teenager to a less weedy, awkward adult!
Britney would probably argue with me over the adult part! James has always had that boyish sense of humor that’s often gotten us into trouble over the years.
I remember James would always be the class clown in high school. But for some reason, it was always me getting in trouble. One day, I glanced over in class to see James scribbling away on his desk.
He’s probably carving out some obscenity in the wood I thought.
This is why it came as such a shock when later that day it was I who was called into the principal’s office, and as I walked with my head hung in shame to my fate, James smiled wide and proudly.
Little did I know it was my name he had carved into the wood, so I could sit in detention after class!
Ever since that day, James and I have been at war with one another to get the other one back! But deep down, I know that James would do anything for me. If I needed someone at 4am, James is that friend.
Despite our differences, I know he’s as good as family to me, and all of the Henderson’s have welcomed me into their home on many occasions, and now Britney gets to have that same privilege.
Britney brings out the absolute best in James, and has given us an incredible gift in bringing two wonderful boys into our lives. With Britney, James gets someone who is beautiful, smart, caring, and Britney…well, you get James.
In all seriousness, if Britney gets half as much joy in being married to James, that I have had in being his friend over the years, then she will be incredibly lucky indeed.
On behalf of all the groomsmen, bridesmaids and myself, I would like to thank James and Britney for having us be a part of their special day. I know how hard you’ve worked to make this a day to remember, and you’ve definitely succeeded.
I wish you both all of the happiness, joy and good luck in the world, as you take these steps towards your future together. To the bride and groom, everyone! (Cheers).
Hello everyone. My name is Joe and I’d just like to thank John for finally confirming that I am in fact – the best man, after 20 years of friendship. 20 years is a long time.
Just think, back then…Low rise jeans were in fashion, Spiderman was the favorite superhero, and Ben Affleck and J-Lo were together. So really, nothing has changed in 20 years, and the same goes for our friendship.
If I ever needed building up, or bringing back down to earth, John was the man to do it. He’s always been there for me, through thick and thin. And let’s face it…during the college years, we were more thick than thin!
But, we had each other’s backs no matter what.
I remember one time in college, we decided that reading books and writing our own essays just wasn’t for us anymore. We decided to pay someone to write us an essay, and we would switch it up to pass the class.
From that day on a keen businessman was born- be careful everyone- you’ll probably get a bill for your food!
It all would have gone swimmingly if John hadn’t forgotten to change the name on the essay, but he never took me down with him!
Since then, I’ve realized what a tenacious person, good friend and loyal individual John was, and it’s an absolute blessing to be up here with you tonight as your best man.
There is one very important person who is not sitting on this top table with us today, and that is John’s mother, Cathy, who sadly passed away just last year.
I’ve joked a lot about John tonight, but I know that Cathy would be incredibly proud to see the man that you have become, and over the moon of how happy you are today with Mia.
So, if you wouldn’t mind joining me in raising a glass to John’s mom, who can’t be with us today, but is with us in spirit. Cheers.
On behalf of the wedding party, I would just like to say a huge thank you to John and Mia, for including us in their special day.
It’s been a wonderful day so far, and all Mia’s hard work planning and prepping has truly paid off. John, you just sit there and look pretty.
In addition, I’d like to thank both Mia’s parents, and John’s dad who have helped make this day extra special for the happy couple, which I’m sure they are eternally grateful for.
I’d also like to say that the bridesmaids have done an incredible job helping Mia plan the perfect wedding, and for making sure that Mia looks every bit as beautiful as she does today.
They also had the difficult task of getting Mia to the church on time, which if you know Mia is a very big achievement, indeed.
Finally, I’d like to thank the groomsmen for organizing and completing the best bachelor party Miami has ever seen. I only hope it was the send off John was hoping for before he begins the next stage of his life with Mia. (But I highly doubt it)
John, I’ve loved being your best friend, and I thank you for bringing Mia into our lives. She’s a beautiful person, intelligent, and brings out the best in everyone she meets. Her only downfall is her taste in men! Just kidding.
Seriously, I think everyone will join me in saying that we wish you only the best for your future together, and that we all can share one day in a love like yours. Cheers to the bride and groom!
Ladies and Gentleman, I have an announcement to make. If there is anyone here tonight that is feeling nervous, apprehensive, or maybe even a little nauseous at what lies ahead…then it’s probably because you’ve just married Adam.
For those of you who don’t know who I am, I am the best man, James. There are few words to describe Adam. Handsome, funny, but smart isn’t one of them. You see, Adam was my best man, at my wedding, and boy he did not hold back!
So, as we stand here today, know that my time has come for me to get you back!
Before I start the character assassination that is my best man’s speech, let me just thank Adam and Olivia for having us be a part of this very special day.
I know how much work has gone into making today as great as it has been, so thank you both for pulling it off! To be honest, I never thought Adam would find someone to marry, let alone someone as beautiful and amazing as Olivia!
I’ve known Adam for a very long time, all the way back to when he still had hair! We first met during our studies at X University. At first I thought we had nothing in common, but I quickly found out that we did. We would both likely fail our first year!
Our time at University was one of the best in my life, and I’ve far too many stories to tell you about our lovely Adam here.
But, as the BEST man, I won’t do to him what he did to me. Instead, I’ll talk about his lovely qualities over the years. First up, is his beautiful singing voice. I can’t tell you how many times I heard the works of Marvin Gaye after he met Olivia.
We quickly banned singing in the shower at our dorm because of all the love songs he would belt out after going on a date with Olivia. To say he was smitten from the start is an understatement.
And why wouldn’t he be? All those who know Olivia know what a lovely, and caring person she is. She deserves a good husband. Thank god Adam got there first before she could find one!
Another defining quality that drew Olivia to Adam is his caring nature. We’re incredibly proud of Adam for working as an EMT and helping people every day.
I’ll never forget the time a few years back during a friendly soccer game where I slipped and fell over on my side, snapping and breaking my ankle.
Adam was at my side within SECONDS…to let me know he caught my fall on video. Emergency Medical Services *Scoff*. Only when he saw the angle of my ankle did his medical training kick in.
All jokes aside, Adam and Olivia have always been there for me, and I them. I’d like to think of them as family rather than friends, and can only hope that continues going forward.
Adam and Olivia…I’ve never met two people more perfect for one another. You are both kind, old souls, and you make each other incredibly happy. So, if you all could raise your glasses with me, and toast to this amazing couple…to the bride and groom!
Hello everyone. My name is Kane, and I am the best man, and longtime friend of Rob. I was, however, somewhat surprised to be asked to be the best man, as Rob has never been able to admit this over the years.
At first, I thought this was great. I get to plan a bachelor party for Rob, but then he reminds me I have to write a killer speech that would likely make everyone laugh.
I had no idea where to start, so I decided to trawl the internet for inspiration. After a few hours, I found some really….really…great stuff. But then I remembered I needed to write a speech, so I got off YouTube.
I asked friends and family for advice, and according to tradition, I am supposed to sing Rob’s praises and tell you all about his fantastic qualities. Well, sorry to tell you, but I can’t sing and I don’t lie. So that’s out of the window.
But, Sophia told me I can’t say anything too rude or controversial about Rob. Instead, I can only say nice funny things, so with that in mind, thank you and goodnight all.
Just kidding. Seriously, Rob is one of the most kind, funny, caring and compassionate people I have ever met. This is a quality that I think brought Sophia closer to him.
His willingness to do anything for anyone, without accepting anything in return is what makes Rob extra special, and a joy to be around.
In turn, Sophia is one of the sweetest, and funnest ladies I have ever met! We’ve shared many great memories together, with my partner included, as Sophia and Rob are actually our children’s godparents.
I’ve known Rob for years. We grew up only a few doors apart on our street. I thought there was no kid cooler than Rob. He had all of the best hot wheels, Pokemon cards, and I had a huge crush on his big sister, Natalie *winks at groom’s sister*.
Looking back, I was probably a big nuisance always wanting to go play over his house, but I had some of the best time of my life growing up with Rob by my side. We’ve been there for every big moment of each other’s lives.
Graduation, getting our first jobs, our first cars, and now I get to be here for the biggest day of his life, where he gets to marry the beautiful Sophia.
Sophia and Rob, your love for each other shines through you. Sophia, I’m happy to step down as I can see that you two are truly best friends, and meant to be.
I can’t think of anyone better to look after my Rob here, and I know he will do everything he can to look after you for the rest of his days.
Thank you both so much for a fantastic day. If the rest of your lives is half as good as today has been, then you are in for a joyful marriage indeed. Please join me everyone in raising a glass to the newly weds, Rob and Sophia. Cheers!
Best Man Speech Frequentl Asked Questions
Does the best man have to do a speech.
The best man does not have to give a speech if he really does not want to, or if there isn’t enough time because there are other people doing speeches, but it is tradition and expected of the best man to do a speech.
When Does The Best Man’S Speech Happen?
The best man speech will typically happen after the groom has said a few words. However, every wedding is different, and the bride and groom may organize the day differently depending on how they think the speeches should flow.
How Long Should A Best Man Speech Be?
A best man speech should be short and sweet, but not too short, and not too long. A happy medium is about 5-6 minutes in length. You don’t want it to be shorter than 3 minutes as it may seem too brief.
The point is to keep the audience engaged, and deliver a few anecdotes, thank the bride and groom, and raise a toast.
What Should You Include In A Best Man Speech?
There are a few things that you should include in the best man speech. This is who you are, and how you know the bride and groom.
In addition, you need a fun story about the groom and you, and why you think the bride and groom are an excellent match, followed by your best wishes for the couple and a toast to their future together.
Who Should You Thank In A Best Man Speech?
In the best man speech, you should thank the bride and groom of course, but you can also thank the bridesmaids or groomsmen for their efforts, or say thank you to the parents of the bride and groom, especially if they have contributed a lot to the wedding.
To summarize, writing a best man speech is not all as bad as it seems.
With this ultimate guide, you’ve got all of the tools you need to succeed, and successfully deliver a hilarious, fun, lighthearted speech that is sure to wish the couple all of the best for the future.
Whether you are looking for examples, tips, what to do, or what not to do, we’ve covered it all in this handy guide.
Now, instead of stressing out about what you are going to say, how you are going to say it, you can look forward to the wedding planning process in the run up to the big day, and most importantly…the bachelor party!
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The ultimate best man speech guide
10 minutes you’ll remember forever.
The Best Man Speech is one of the highlights of any wedding, but getting it right is essential, because whilst it’s just 10 minutes or so on the day, the memories of this speech will last a lifetime . Most Best Men are weighed down by the expectation to be funny, and have no idea where to start, what it should really contain, how to end it, or how to talk about the bride and groom in a meaningful and non-clichéd way. This page is the definitive guide on how to write your best man speech, from the structure, to the jokes, how to handle two men, props, format and quotes…it’s here. All you need is some time, a creative burst and the rest will take care of itself.
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How to write a great best man speech
Here is a short video with my thoughts and ideas on writing a great best man speech. I’ve expanded on those ideas below to give as much advice, hints and tips on writing a really great speech. Enjoy!
Many best men race to get that first funny line in there, and usually at the expense of quality. Keep it warm, funny and never edgy.
1. Good afternoon ladies and gentlemen, for those who of you I haven’t had the pleasure of meeting yet, my name is Chris and I am officially Paul’s second best man…second best ladies and gentlemen…nobody likes to be second best do they? Well, Paul, looking at his career, he should know better than most…anyway where were we?
2. Good evening ladies and gentlemen before I begin I’d just like to introduce myself: my name is Chris and it is my very great honor and privilege to be the first of Mark’s two Best Man…we had to split it…46 years is quite a long time to cover all in one go! Over the course of the next few minutes I’ll be taking you through Mark’s sporting heroics, dealing with incredible loss and being caned by people dressed as nuns…which in fact had nothing to do with the stag do
3. Good evening Ladies and Gentlemen, over the next few minutes we’ll be talking about the man for whom Scottish Independence now means asking his English wife if he can go to the pub at the weekend. I can’t help but thinking that an English woman telling a Scottish man he can’t go to the pub, would be a new low in this country’s rich cultural history.
4. Over the next few minutes I’ll be taking you on the rollercoaster ride that has been Sean’s life to date, and there are some amazing stories; like the time he was playing A ball with David Cameron in Mexico and his dog ate the Prime Minister’s guinea pig and he had to sell my passport to repair his own nose…actually I’ve known Sean 30 years…I might have muddled a few things up there…
AN EXAMPLE OF WHAT NOT TO DO….
Good afternoon ladies and gentlemen, before I begin I would just like to take this opportunity to introduce myself to those of you I haven’t yet met. My name is Dave, and this Bob, and together it is our very great pleasure and privilege to be Colin’s best men for today’s celebrations.
At this point I thought I would be nervous at doing Leigh’s speech but I am now looking forward to ripping him a new arse hole in front of all his family and friends and better yet he has to sit there quietly.
This is the most puzzling part because unless you’re a seasoned speech writer, why should you have idea about structure? There are a few ways to tackle this, but the best idea is to keep things simple and form a logical progression from one piece to the next, don’t let the timeline jump around, don’t confuse the audience, and don’t cover topics or people multiple times.
Talk about being the best man
Now you’ve got to get from the introduction into the main part of the speech and this is the bridge, and in many ways the trickiest part of the whole speech, particularly if you’re trying to link everything together. Again, simple is good – don’t make the guests think too hard!
1.Over the next few minutes I will be guiding you though what amounts to one great big cry for help: Paul’s life. The inglorious acting career, the ridiculous hair, owning a ridiculous car, the persistent alcoholic over indulgence and drunken profane outbursts – he was quite simply South West London’s answer to David Hasselhof…just not as successful.
Neil is a special friend and special friends deserve one thing: three stag dos. The weekends of Istanbul, London and Leeds will live long in the memory of not just those who went, but also those who read about us in the national papers. The mass chants of ‘feed the snake! Feed the snake!’ and the enduring company of our new best friend Bianca the stripper are, I have to say, completely unrelated. I would also like to say that for the record Brian accepts and welcomes people from every country around the globe. Almost. AN EXAMPLE OF WHAT NOT TO DO….
Now a wise man once told me the best man speech should last as long as it takes for the groom to make love…So thank you everyone for coming
Firstly, I would just like to say how beautiful the bridesmaids look who have only been out shone by the bride herself, who looks amazing today.
If everyone could be upstanding, and raise a glass, know as some of you may know Kerry wanted to have the wedding a lot earlier than this, so that a certain something could be involved in the wedding, and unfortunately after a long and hard fight that couldn’t happen. I am of course talking about mikes rapidly thinning hairline, you will be sadly missed.
How you know the groom
This comes directly after the bridge and establishes a connection with the audience – they can immediately understand why you’re there, what you mean to the groom and it’s always an opportunity to have some fun with it, especially if you’re a brother!
- My first mistake was going to stay in the shared house in London where he lived. My second was to comment on the hair. As a glass bowl of pot pourri went sailing past my head and smashed behind me giving off a wonderful burst of sandalwood fragrance, I was given enough time to realize that this was a troubled, sensitive character who didn’t take criticism that well. Perfect friend material.
- I first properly met Nick way back in 1994 when we started secondary school together. Little did we know it at the time but it was the start of a beautiful relationship, which, for me, EVENTUALLY proved worth pursuing years later when I was able to borrow all his notes and pass my A Levels. Of course, Nick didn’t need them because he might look quite cool now but he was in fact a complete square at school. The day when he could read without putting his finger on the word and then count without using his hands, were both real breakthrough moments in his life, only to be capped a few weeks later when he passed his driving test.
- I first met Brent when we attended the University of Texas and pledged a fraternity together. It was here amongst the upside down beer bongs, ritual humiliation and complete lack of sleep that I knew I had met a friend for life. This may sound overly emotional and slightly premature but when you discover your new buddy is packing his dad’s credit card with no limits, who wouldn’t want him as a friend for life? Just for the record Mr. Schakett, I know at times you may have been concerned about the amount of money Brent spent on alcohol and food on that card. You shouldn’t have: the Shot Man Schakett never wasted any of your money on food.
The trick to writing a really entertaining speech is to make the whole thing a story, rather than dragging the audience through endless stories. Recounting anecdotes is really hard to do because they require a lot of detail and all the time you’re getting to the punchline without making them laugh can prove really counterproductive. Of course, this can all pay off if you have a killer punchline, but all too frequently they aren’t that ‘killer’ and require you to have been there.
Instead take out the good bits from the stories and condense them, even embellish slightly into one neat burst of comedy…
1. Now as he embarked on adult life Nick was to learn the hard way just what it is to be a man, and the number one rule is: if you are going to offer to buy the drinks in happy hour, it’s best not to drop the entire lot down yourself as you get back to the table thus meaning you have to go and buy it all again just after happy hour’s finished. Also you should only ever do a runner from a restaurant via the roof if you HAVEN’T actually paid the bill. Leaving Prezzo’s this way one evening after settling up and leaving a good tip, still doesn’t make any sense to anyone.
2. Anyway when Mark wasn’t failing to hit the top spot in the classroom he was also finding it difficult to do that on the sports field as well. However, with a modest talent and even less interest, he did the only sensible thing to do: saved up all his skill and enthusiasm for one split second of genius. Quite how he managed to catch the impossible cricket ball as it left our sports master’s bat, is still completely unknown. But with, uncharacteristic razor sharp reactions and gazelle like agility, he did just that, and won his side the match. Literally seconds after this Mark retired from all forms of competitive sport – at the very top of his game.
3. There weren’t many highlights to being on minimom wage in the frozen section of nobody’s favourite supermarket, in fact if I remember rightly, there was only one. Nick had been asked to use his initiative to dispose of a 2 litre tub of chocolate ice cream – no big deal you might think. Well, Nick decides to take it into the staff toilets and empty it into the loo. Ladies and gentlemen, a big tub of melting chocolate ice cream can make a big impression when poured into a toilet and can only ever give the next person in there the wrong idea. And it did. From then on half the people thought he had dodgy guts the rest thought he ate on the toilet. Both of which, are in fact, true.
These are ripe areas for comedy material, and whilst you can hint at his accomplishments that should really come later in the speech, when it all gets a bit more meaningful. Of course, the disasters aren’t real disasters just areas of his life and social situations he’s got catastrophically wrong…for comedy effect.
It wasn’t all academic and sporting mediocrity though, there have been lots of other things he wasn’t good at too. Forget school discos and trying to speak to girls, Mark had computers eating out of his hand. And it’s easy to see why: with computers you can eventually work out what’s bothering them, they usually only ever break down for legitimate reasons and if you get fed up with them, you can just switch them off. You see, nothing made his heart beat harder or his mind race faster than a computer with a problem. It is a love affair that has endured to this day.
The impact the bride has had on the groom
This should be a fun look at the way the groom as upped his game, changed his wardrobe and started showing an interest in things outside of pubs, football and waking up late.
1. But when he’s not trying to track the dark forces behind his least favourite football club in the world, he also likes to go on holiday. Now going on holiday for Frank is nothing new but the way he goes about it now is very different from the Frank of old. Thanks to his beautiful new wife Emily, Frank now does something called globe trotting which actually involves going to lots of different far flung countries and immersing yourself in their culture, rather than a two hour flight and immersing yourself at the bar.
2. It’s always tricky that first stage of the relationship as you go about discovering whether it’s going to work or not. However, for Sean and Lucinda it was a lot trickier, as soon after he met her and became smitten, he had the romantic task of making her redundant. Sean was taking the old addage “if you love them set them free” to ridiculous conclusions, which resulted in Lucinda losing her job.
3. Cassie, can I just say that you look absolutely beautiful today, I think we can all agree Brent is one lucky guy. I always had a sneaking feeling that Brent was batting way above his average, now I know he is! I have seen over the years just how happy you both are together and I am so thrilled for Brent that he’s met such an amazing woman to share his life with. Also if you could find it in your big, warm heart to allow The Shot Man and that credit card to come out to play, then you would make some grown up, financially independent men, very happy too.
The wedding day really is only about one person, and even though the Best Man Speech should mainly be about the groom, the bride does of course have her part in it as well.
The thing to remember here is, that unless you live in Australia, the best man always goes last, and so the groom will already have extensively talked about how they met. You’re really looking to avoid repetition, so allude generally to how they met, and I’d avoid details…and if they met online and aren’t advertising the fact, then you shouldn’t either.
1. Seriously when Mark met you Emily, everyone could see just how happy that made him. He’s always been a great bloke waiting for the right girl and everyone who knows you both will tell you just what a great couple you are together. Mark I couldn’t be happier for you today, we’ve known each other such a long time and I hope that friendship lasts for many more years to come.
2. Ali, I know you make Neil incredibly happy – you must do, he’s stopped dressing like a middle aged freak. But seriously, you both make a great couple and I know that he’ll already have the next few years planned out on spreadsheets but if you can fit me in I’ll look forward to spending a lot happier times together.
3. The fact that Dave also looked like Kevin Keegan’s love child, also didn’t help his dating days. That was until that fateful night, on the last train from London when he met the lovely Katie and smooth talked her after another mate of ours offered her a complimentary chicken nugget, and the rest is history. In a world, which looks down upon fast food, I think we all need to think again.
4. I can see how incredibly happy you have made my old friend over these last eight years and just how much you have helped to change his life for the better. He’s always been a great guy buy now he has wider horizons and a greater sense of adventure. And I know just how much of a support you’ve been to him through the tough times. I think you are a great couple and I look forward to many more happy times together in the future.
There should really be only one toast in a best man speech and that’s at the very end. Tradition states that best men should reply on behalf of the bridesmaids at the beginning of the speech in response to the bridesmaids toast by the groom – but it’s just confusing and not necessary. A simple but effective toast at the end and you’re done.
All that remains for me is to wish you all a long and happy life together, with all the luck in the world.
Ladies and gentlemen, the bride and groom.
This is where you tie all the strands together, and say what a great friend/brother the groom is, how much he’s been there for you through difficult times, laughed with you through the good times, and always had your back….and if he hasn’t…just lie!
1. John, you have been a good friend to me ever since we first met, and not just in the form of free shots and hosting parties. We’ve had great times going to the games, hanging out and making that journey from college to adult life. I know there will be less time for me in your life as I’ve now been replaced by a small dog called Ben, but you’re catholic, and now you’re married – I can’t see that dog getting a look in for months anyway. However, I will always look forward to the time we spend together especially when for old time’s sake the Shot Man is once again unleashed. Thanks for being trustworthy, loyal and understanding friends and I hope to spend many more times together for many more years to come…maybe also with that doctor wife you promised me Julie.
2. With your laidback, calm and sensitive approach to life Frank, you’re somebody that many people count themselves lucky to have in their lives. Not just because of your willingness and ability to help them out as a friend but because you’re fun and light hearted ways mean you’re always a great guy to be around.
3. I am so happy that you’ve found each other to share your lives with and all that remains for me to say is that I hope you have a great day today and enjoy a long and happy life together.
4. Sam, we’ve known each other for such a long time and been through such a lot together that it’s hard to know where to begin. All I can say is that I couldn’t have wished for a better bloke to share those years with and I hope that there’s going to be plenty more of them to come. Thanks for being a great friend, and thanks for letting me copy your homework.
Other things to consider
From a vast amount of experience you should avoid using props at all costs. It might seem like a great idea to have films, photos, a man in a gimp suit taking the heat off you in a pressurised situation, but it only ever serves to make the day a lot trickier and the speech less effective. As soon as you start holding up pictures or invite people to look at pictures you’ve left on the table they will immediately stop looking at you and start zoning out or talking amongst themselves.
If you give anyone the opportunity to divert their gaze you then have to work really hard to get it back again, and props will only ever make your speech longer and more tedious to endure. They also usually rely heavily on cables, Bluetooth connections, wifi etc etc…or at the very least everyone being able to see what you’re holding up…and they never can. Suddenly you’re getting heckles about not being able to see/hear/understand and it makes the speech the longest 10 minutes of your life.
A great idea if you’ve got funny photographs is to pin them up by the seating plan so that everyone will get to see them and then you can reference those in your speech.
Forget the awful quotes that you normally hear such as ‘it’s not somebody you can live with, it’s somebody you can’t live without, there are some great quotes out there if you look hard enough. Just one for each speech as you don’t want it to become some sort of English Literature GCSE essay.
The greatest gift of life is friendship, and I have received it. - Hubert Humphrey
There is nothing on this earth more to be prized than true friendship. - Thomas Aquinas.
Friendship is born at that moment when one person says to another: ‘What! You too? I thought I was the only one. - AA Milne.
Think where man’s glory most begins and ends, and say my glory was I had such friends. - WB Yeats.
Quotes can be a really powerful way to end a speech, and it’s worth going that extra mile to find something that very few have used before, so check out sites such as BrainyQuote and GoodReads for an endless supply of great quotes.
You are always going to get a heckler or two so it’s worth thinking in advance how to deal with them so they don’t upset your flow, and even better, give you an opportunity to get some extra laughs. The most simple method is just to pause, wait until they’re done and carry on, but if you can get a bit of mileage out of it, so much the better.
A good way of having some fun is simply to ask if they’re looking for assistance in going to the bathroom, this works particularly well if they happen to be on the slightly older side. If it’s a younger person you can assume some vocal surprise that their carers have let them out for the day, or suggest that whatever medication the system has got them on, they need to cut the dose. Anything along this sort of gentle fun vein, always works a treat…as long as they don’t really have a carer and aren’t on medication.
In my experience best man jokes are probably the least effective addition to any best man speech that wants to be classed as superior. By best man jokes, I am alluding to about 100 or so gags that were written over the years specifically to get a laugh from wedding guests. You can do so much better than these, because they’re old, tired an dpeople have heard them all before and the last thing you want to do is land one of these at the start of your speech to a luke warm ripple of polite laughter.
To identify exactly what I’m talking about I’ve listed some of the most prolific offenders.
It’s an emotional wedding, even the cake is in tiers.
It’s not the first time today I’ve got up form a warm seat with a piece of paper in my hand.
If there’s anybody here this afternoon who’s feeling nervous, apprehensive and queasy at the thought of what lies ahead, it’s probably because you have just got married to the groom.
Complete rubbish. You need to work out what it is that’s funny about the groom in an original and engaging way, people will love your creativity and laugh much more!
Burning deep within his sole was a dream, what he wanted more than anything, more than being a cowboy, professional tennis player or A ball star…was to be an office manager in the NHS. What can I say? He’s not dreaming any more ladies and gentlemen.
This is one of the most important factors and it actually depends on quite a few things, so we’ll start off with the very general scenario of 3 speakers at a wedding – Father of the bride, Groom and Best Man. If this is the case and it’s in the UK, then the best man speech should be a stand up to sit down time of no longer than 10 minutes. If this is in America, that will be about 5 minutes maximom. Americans like their speeches shorter and more efficient, and that’s no bad thing.
However, these timings will then change the more speakers that are added to the line up, because what the groom should be doing is making sure the section of speeches doesn’t run into hours of your life you’ll never get back. If there are 4 speakers, aim to be in and out in around 8 minutes, 5 speakers you’re looking at about 6 minutes, and so it goes on.
You have to bear in mind also that as you’ll be the last speaker, apart from Australia where you’re up second, and so the guests are at the limit of their concentration endurance, so if they’ve been sitting through 90 minutes of speeches, and it happens, make it REALLY funny, and REALLY short.
If you are two best men making a joint speech then you should be stood for about 12-13 minutes, and that remains the case the more best men are added to the line up. If you’re a co-best man and you’re making separate speeches, then your speech should be about 7 minutes. The timings in Australia are identical to the UK except that the best man goes after the father of the bride.
Joint best man
Being a joint best man is pretty common these days, and you really need to tackle what you’re going to go about things as early as possible, because trying to coordinate two guys to write and deliver a speech whilst they juggle their own lives can prove next to impossible.
The first thing you have to decide is if you’re going to make a joint speech or separate ones. The best method is to make a joint speech as it means you won’t double up on gags or content, and nobody has that last dreaded speech spot. A great joint best man speech should consist of about 4 chunks of content each and you bounce from one best man to other all the way through the speech.
However, for many reasons making a joint speech might prove impossible. Maybe there’s no time to coordinate it, maybe you don’t like the guy, or maybe there’s a fundamental clash of ideas. In that case make sure your speech is efficient, tight and punchy and comes in at around 7 minutes, and whatever you do, make sure you get on first.
Quite a lot of grooms make their brother the best man, and that does throw up a few problems – the main one being that although you’ve grown up in the same family/house etc. you don’t really know that much about him! When I’m writing speeches, this doesn’t really affect the creative process because I’m looking for a very funny comedic overview of who the groom is, not a granular introspection. If you’re facing this very common problem, then just take everything you know about his character, passion, dislikes, job and even hair colour and get the funnies out of that. It can be done but it really needs thinking about.
Of course, there is some fun to be had with the introduction and you need to allude to that fact how upset you were when your number priority spot was completely usurped by a noisy, ugly ginger baby called Dave. If you’re younger than talk about the time you realised the bigger toddler in the house who kept bashing you over the head every time your mom left the room, was in fact your older brother Steve.
Former Girlfriends
As tempting as it may seem to have a quick chronological run through of the groom’s former loves, this will only ever end in disaster. This comes back to my point that the wedding day is really only about the bride – if you do anything to upset her, then it’s pretty terminal. Mentioning former conquests in any way shape or form is something I completely avoid, you might think it’s all light hearted fun but no bride likes to think of their brand new husband being the love interest of someone else!
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How to Write and Deliver the Perfect Best Man Speech
Our three experts will help you become an all-star orator.
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Being asked to be someone's best man is a tremendous honor, but it's also a role that comes with a number of important responsibilities . While you're going to be responsible for everything from groomsmen shepherding to bachelor party planning , there's one task that requires your utmost attention and efforts: giving an incredible wedding speech.
The best man's speech traditionally follows the groom's speech (if he's giving one) and may or may not follow the maid of honor's toast (generally speaking, the better orator should go second). This is a chance for you to say some kind words about your relationship with the couple and your best friend. Wedding speeches are meant to be quick, lighthearted moments during the reception, so while you should expend effort crafting thoughtful words, you don't have to overthink it. Still, we know public speaking doesn't come easily for everyone, and if the thought of public speaking has your kneecaps sweating, we're here to help.
With tapped three experts—President Barack Obama's former speechwriter David Litt, wedding toast advisor Pete Honsberger, and public speaking expert LaQuita Cleare—and asked them to share the best tips for writing a perfect man speech.
Meet the Expert
- David Litt was the speechwriter for President Barack Obama from 2011 to 2016 and is the author of the New York Times best-selling book Thanks, Obama.
- Pete Honsberger has been a serial groomsman, speaker, and wedding toast advisor for most of his adult life. When it comes to wedding toasts, he's seen just about everything—you can read about it in his book, Wedding Toasts 101: The Guide to the Perfect Wedding Speech .
- LaQuita Cleare is a public speaking expert and the founder of Clear Communication Academy , where she prepares CEOs, actors, and other professionals to become stronger, more engaging public speakers.
If you're hoping to write and deliver a best man speech that will blow everyone away, follow our expert-approved tips.
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Best Man Speech Template
Getting all your thoughts and feelings down on paper can be overwhelming, especially if you're not used to sharing those sentiments with the guys. For those who are unsure of what to write for the big day, here is a guideline to help you find your flow.
Find a Theme
A theme is a unifying idea that ties the whole speech together. Think of it as the takeaway of your speech, or the one thing you want guests to remember. The best way to identify your theme is by making a list of your favorite stories. "You’re not going to just write a speech from scratch. Start by brainstorming stories. Most importantly, what you’re looking for is the theme that comes out of those anecdotes," says Litt.
Build a Framework
The best way to organize your thoughts is to create a blueprint of the key points you want to hit first, sort of like a toast skeleton. After you've established the roadmap, fill it in with pertinent details and memories while still ensuring you're staying on point. "Think about it in terms of ideas," says Litt. "You can get in one or two short anecdotes, maybe three, and one big idea. If those are good, you don’t need more."
Instead of thinking of yourself as the speaker, imagine that you're actually standing in the audience. Think about what the audience would like to hear, rather than what you want to do.
Nail the Opening
According to Cleare, your opening remarks need to be just right. Remember that you only have a few seconds to grab the attention of your audience, so make the most of them. "This can be a fun quote that the bride or groom always says or you can use the story of your relationship with the [couple] as the opening," she suggests.
Focus on the Newlyweds
Most best men will include a story or two about their friendship with the groom, but don't center the whole speech on it. "Remember the relationship that you’re celebrating is the one between the two people getting married. You’re giving the speech because you can shine some unique light on that relationship," says Litt. "If the relationship that you’re really giving the speech about is the one between you and the groom, things [will get] awkward."
Share Your Feelings
Deliver something more meaningful than one joke after another. "Generally speaking, men think of the best man speech as a funny speech to give because we’re very uncomfortable sharing how we actually feel. But, what makes a good best man speech is the part where somebody shares how they feel. Humor is just the icing on the cake," says Litt. The newlyweds chose you to speak because you have something notable to add to their big day. Embrace your personal insight into their bond and don't try to dilute it by just being funny.
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Best Man Speech Writing and Delivery Tips
Now that you have at least a rough idea of what you want your speech to be like, it's time to put pen to paper. Finished writing? Practice, practice, practice, and ensure every word you say is a good fit for the big day. After all, there's nothing worse than raising a glass at the end of your speech and hearing crickets. These tips will help you do all of that and more.
Consider Your Audience
You can't nail a speech if you have no idea who to tailor the content to. "Feel free to ask beforehand. When I was writing speeches for the president, we had a point of contact where the speech was happening to say who exactly is in the audience. You can do a smaller-scale version of that. Your point of contact is probably your friend getting married . But, the nice thing about giving the best man speech is that, ideally, it’s both specific to you and universal to the couple," says Litt.
If you're open to it, Cleare also suggests bringing other attendees into the mix during your deliver. "Don’t be afraid to involve your audience! You can pose a question to them during your speech," she notes. This is a great way to make everyone feel included.
"I would say almost never start with talking about how nervous you are. I’d also say just relax. That’s a hard thing to tell someone to do. But remember, you’re not putting on a show," says Litt. "You're simply talking about your best friend and the love of their life, two people that you've probably spent a lot of time with. In the end, it should just flow and come out easily." Litt also suggests, "imagine you’re just telling a story to a group of friends because, really, you are."
Put Down Your Notes
No, you don't have to memorize every word of your toast, but Cleare recommends that you "bring the confidence, and put down your notes" on the big day. "Don’t worry about memorizing your speech word for word. It is more important to connect, deliver with confidence and have fun," she explains. The more you can engage the audience—look at them, feed off their energy—the better your toast will be received.
Stay True to Yourself
Stick with who you are and how you would normally act around your friends; you don't need to adopt a character just because you're giving a speech. For example, if you aren't normally the comedian in the group, don't try to tell a bunch of jokes. If you're not usually a super-sentimental person, don't force it. There's nothing wrong with keeping your speech more lighthearted. The couple already knows (and loves) your personality, so the more genuine you are, the better your speech will be received by both the newlyweds and their guests.
Don't Rely Solely on Humor
While a few jokes sprinkled in can be a great tool for loosening up the crowd, don't make these the meat of your toast—especially if comedy doesn't come naturally to you. "Let me put it this way. There’s such a thing as too many bad jokes, and that number is about one. The more you treat it as an open-mic night, the less happy everyone involved is going to be. You don’t need to go in thinking, 'How do I get invited back next week?'" explains Litt.
Keep Things Positive
Even if you think it's well-meaning, don't turn the toast into a roast or make jokes at the couple's expense. "I’ve seen best man speeches where someone thinks, 'Oh, my job is to roast the groom.' Unless the couple specifically told you that’s your job, that’s not your job. The way to think about jokes is that you don’t want people to be laughing at the groom or at the couple. You want people to be laughing because they suddenly know the groom better than they did before." says Litt.
Don't Upstage the Newlyweds
Litt's previous boss (former President Obama) really enjoyed telling other people's stories at speaking engagements, and this ultimately strengthened his messages. "His speeches are not really about him. They’re about other people," says Litt. Channel Obama by keeping your speech focused on the couple. "You’re not performing. You’re there because you know someone and care about them, and you’re sharing that with a bunch of other people. Even a great best man speech is not supposed to steal the show. If somebody says, 'That speech was nice but almost forgettable because we were so focused on the bride and groom,' that’s a win. You don’t need to be the star," advises Litt.
Keep It Appropriate
"My general rule for wedding speeches is: If you have to ask yourself, 'Is this appropriate?' it’s not. And if you’re the kind of person who doesn’t know, ask a friend. If they give you that slightly horrified look, listen to that look," explains Litt. Keep in mind that your audience will include guests of various generations and cultures, like your friend's grandparents, boss, and colleagues. Refrain from mentioning anything that you wouldn't want your grandma or boss to know.
Get a Second Opinion
Remember, you'll be delivering this toast in front of an audience (as if you could forget, right?). So it doesn't hurt to get some feedback on what you're planning on saying. "If you’re the kind of person who has a track record of going a little too far with your surprises, you should be self-aware enough to run this by a third party—maybe another close friend or a friend of the bride," says Litt.
The last thing you want to do is stand up and give a speech that you've never said out loud. "The best thing to do is practice with a friend. Anybody giving a big speech rehearses beforehand. If you’ve already gotten good feedback from field-testing your remarks with a smaller group, then you’re going to come out on the wedding day comfortably knowing you have a good speech. It's that uncertainty that can be scary when you’re up there speaking," says Litt.
Cleare notes that you can practice your public speaking at any point—you don't need an occasion as big as a wedding to work on your skills. "Practice your public speaking regularly. You don’t have to wait for a big day to improve," she says. "From volunteering to lead a work meeting to giving a toast at a party with friends, [you can practice almost anytime.]"
Keep It Short
Let's be realistic: Super-long wedding toasts annoy guests. "I’ve never been to a wedding where anyone said, 'That was a great wedding, but the best man speech was just too short and that ruined it.' I would say five minutes is the absolute maximum. Three minutes is fine. There’s no question that if you’re reading this, you’ve sat through a speech that was too long. But when you start writing a speech, you almost never think, 'Is this going to be too long?'" explains Litt.
Limit Your Drinks
Don't embarrass yourself by slurring through your toast. "Being one drink in works for some people, but being more than one drink in is never a good idea. At that moment when you’re like, 'You know what I need? Another couple of shots.' That is never what you need," advises Litt.
Mind Your Body Language
A telltale sign that you're nervous? Fidgety body language. Cleare suggests rehearsing not just your words, but also how you'll stand and present yourself on the big day. "Practice open body language instead of putting your hands in your pockets or crossing your arms," she suggests. "Using gestures while you speak will also make you appear more confident and increase the value of your message." And, whatever you do, don't forget to make eye contact with the crowd. "Your eyes tell all," Cleare says.
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Best Man Speech Openers
Still at a loss for where to take your speech? If you need a little help getting your speech going, our experts share a few ideas to kick-start the process. Use these openers to help get your inspiration flowing.
Introduce Yourself With a Twist
Want to tell the crowd exactly why you're the best man? Honsberger says to get straight to the point and tell them how you know the groom. Most importantly, add some flavor to the first few lines. Spice it up a bit, as anyone can do the standard, “For those of you who don’t know me….” Simply put, ask yourself what a twist would look like in your own introduction.
“Good evening, if you’re in this room and don’t know me by now, then you’re probably at the wrong wedding. I am, of course, [your name], and I’ve been best friends with [groom] for 25 years…”
“Hello and welcome to tonight’s reception. [name of groom], YOU truly are MY biggest fan. Wait, that didn’t come out right…As I was saying…”
Crack a Joke, Even a Corny One
Remember the audience when determining whether your joke should be said, but ultimately, try and see if you can get the crowd to laugh in the first 30 seconds. To achieve this, Honsberger says to simply reach into your own bag of jokes or look one up online. "I’d encourage you to first spend a little time reflecting on your own comedic ability. If you’re coming up empty, then consult outside resources," he notes.
"Hello, I’m the best man [your name]. This entire day has been beautiful so far. In fact, I’m getting emotional. The wedding cake has me in TIERS. (looking at a three-tiered cake).”
"You’re probably wondering why I asked you all here tonight…well, I can promise it’s not for my 'Magic Mike' performance. You’ll have to stick around to the last song for that."
Be Hilarious With a Straight Face
While still technically a joke, this is you working hard to sound serious while saying something absurd. And if you get this right, you’ll hear a little giggle immediately, followed by laughter from the rest of the crowd once they figure out what you said was a joke.
“Good evening, I am [your name], the best man and [relationship to groom] of [name of groom]. Tonight we’re in a room full of great men–doctors, lawyers, military veterans, and successful businesspeople–yet I am the 'best.' His words, not mine.”
"As Abraham Lincoln once said, [say something outrageous than Lincoln obviously never said—an inspirational quote, movie line, piece of advice, etc.] … and that’s what brings us all together tonight to celebrate [couple's name].”
Introduce a Recurring Theme
Choosing an overall toast theme can help you start strong. If you decide that your relationship with the groom can be summed up by sports, college, vacations, a mutual love of running, or whatever fits you, that can be your theme. And if that’s the case, your opener is simply the first, or the best, story you have related to that specific topic.
“Hello and welcome, my name’s [your name], and I’m here to talk about my amazing friends Mike and Liz. They are truly a story of opposites attracting.
For example, Liz’s favorite food is french fries, and Mike is allergic to potatoes. Mike has an obsession with ice cream, and Liz is lactose intolerant (pause for laughter).
Thankfully, things have a way of working out, and we are gathered tonight to celebrate the most important thing they have in common…incredibly good looks. I mean, LOVE.”
Just like that, you’ve captured the audience, let them into the world of the married couple, and got them excited for the rest of your toast.
Ask a Question to Answer Throughout
If you’re questioning your toast opener, try leaning into that approach. Instead of looking for the answer, embrace the question. Think about what you would want to know about the groom if you were a distant relative or family friend sitting in the audience, says Honsberger. What would be an interesting question to explore about the couple? Use that.
“Good evening. My name is [your name] and I’ve known [groom] for more than [#] years. As I was preparing this toast, one question consistently rang in my mind: How do I summarize a friendship that has lasted since we [when you met]? Believe it or not, [groom] was [name a quirk or characteristic about him] back then, too.”
“But really, how can I possibly speak to all of our experiences in just a few minutes without turning it into one big inside joke? Do I talk about …?”
Then, spend the rest of the speech answering that question, and you’ll never lack information to share.
Rhyme-Master Flex
Really want to capture the intrigue of everyone in the room? Start rhyming your sentences. Honsberger says he tried this in his first-ever wedding toast, and the result was an audience hanging on every sentence, wondering what the next line would be.
“Good evening ladies and gentlemen, I am Dan's younger brother, Pete. Many of you, I already know. Some, I have yet to meet.
Dan and Kate, thank you so much for this amazing chance, to speak on your special day … by the way, I call first dance. (crowd boos in jest) Sorry, but I called it!
I’ve looked up to Dan ever since I’ve had sight. He was always bigger than me, and he was always right.
Being the oldest of four boys couldn’t have been an easy thing. But in a house full of hyenas, Dan was the Lion King."
Read a Definition from the Dictionary
Here’s a chance to leverage one of the most straightforward and honest resources in existence: the dictionary. All you need to do is find one word that defines the couple’s relationship, says Honsberger. This can be serious and sentimental or funny—your choice. Just make sure it's relevant to the couple.
“Google’s second definition of the word ‘love’ says, ‘A great interest and pleasure in something or someone.’ I think this is beautiful and an understatement when I think of [bride] and [groom]’s marriage. Although I was a little concerned when, under the definition, the word “love” was used in a sentence as ‘His love for football.’ Hmm, strange…”
“Who’s ready to dance tonight? Wikipedia defines the word ‘dance’ as ‘a performing art form consisting of purposefully selected sequences of human movement,’ and those words have honestly never come to mind when I think of [groom] dancing. I might be kidding, but there’s only one way to find out!”
Tell a Story of How You Met
If the groom is a friend, chances are you have a good story of the first time you met or early in your friendship. If it’s your brother or family member, simply use one of your first memories together, whether playing, adventuring, or getting into trouble.
“The year was 1993, the class was kindergarten. I was building a beautiful tower of blocks when out of nowhere, they were knocked to the ground by a classmate without mercy or even an apology. That classmate was Matt, and we’ve been best friends ever since. And Matt, I’m sorry for throwing the blocks at your head after that.”
Begin With a Quote
Simple and overused? Maybe. Effective? Absolutely. If you want to make the groom smile immediately during your toast, use a quote that you both recognize. If there’s one that his partner appreciates, too, even better. The most important reminder when using a quote is to ensure the audience feels like they’re part of it, too. Unless the quote is universally known, briefly mention its origin right after saying it. Let them into the joke and they’ll be with you for the rest of the toast.
“Good evening everyone, my name is [your name], and I’m the best man tonight. When coach [name] used to tell you to ‘Be an Athlete,’ this is what he meant. When anyone on our team missed a tackle, it was ‘be an athlete,’ when our jerseys weren’t tucked in, same saying. We’ve adopted that as a cure for any issues in life. When [groom] really wanted to introduce himself to [bride], the solution was simple. ‘Be an athlete.’ And he was. So if you see [groom] miss a step on the dance floor later, be sure to remind him to ‘Be an athlete.’"
Read Something in a Different Language
Looking for a way to involve international members of the family in your toast? Look no further than practicing a phrase and reciting it in their native language to begin your toast. If that doesn’t apply in your situation, yet you still want to shake things up and be unique, you can translate a wedding-related sentence into another language. It will be intriguing, and you’ll sound smart!
“Hello and welcome to everyone in both families on such a beautiful day. Me llamo Pedro y necesito que te diviertas porque esta boda es muy cara (wait for laughter from Spanish speakers). If you don’t speak Spanish, I said that I need everyone to have fun because this wedding is really expensive!”
The Bottom Line
At the end of the day, this speech is about the couple getting married, why you love them so much, how happy you are for them, and why you're honored to have this role in the wedding party. Keep things light, positive, and succinct—and also remember that the celebration is all about love, and no one is here to make you feel nervous. Make time to practice the speech, take a few deep breaths before you begin to speak, and focus your attention on the couple. Before you know it, you'll have given a speech for the books!
The best man traditionally speaks at the wedding reception following the maid of honor, though some couples may schedule the speeches during the rehearsal dinner instead.
The best man gives one speech either at the wedding reception or, less commonly, the rehearsal dinner.
The best man's speech serves as a special lens for the audience to better understand the groom, and the newlyweds, through his significant position in their lives. The focus should be to highlight the relationship of the newlyweds rather than the relationship between the best man and groom.
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Complete Guide to Delivering a Perfect Best Man’s Speech
Callen Winslow explores relationship complexities and the human experience. Drawing on psychology, he believes in everyone's potential for growth and fulfillment.
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Are you saddled with the responsibility of standing in for someone dear to you as the best man? This responsibility comes with the tradition of delivering the best man’s speech.
Giving the best man’s speech provides you with the opportunity to celebrate the loving union of two souls and wish them a future filled with blessings, good health, and happiness.
In this article, you will learn how to write and deliver an impeccable best man’s speech that will leave a lasting impression on everyone present at the wedding.
What does a best man speech mean?
A best man speech is a speech that the best man gives at a wedding reception. Most times, the best man is usually very close to the groom, either related by blood or friendship.
The primary essence of the speech is to honor the couple, share stories about them, and wish them a blissful future together. Sometimes, the best man’s speech ends with a toast, which everyone in the wedding reception participates in.
To learn more about a best man speech, read this book by Simon J. Bucknall titled The Best Man Speaker.
What are the vital dos and don’ts of a best man speech?
When it comes to how to write best man speech, there are some essential do’s and don’ts to bear in mind.
Prepare adequately
Take time to prepare properly and rehearse it several times. When you practice, you feel more confident and less likely to make mistakes. If possible, go through some of the best man speech examples.
Keep it short
On how to write a best man speech, ensure the speech is short so that people don’t get bored. The average audience at a wedding reception will prefer a sweet yet concise speech.
Be respectful and positive
Avoid giving offensive or negative remarks about the couple. Remember that it is their special day, so stick to the respectful and positive stories that will elevate their mood.
Appreciate everyone
While a good portion of your speech focuses on the couple, spare some time to appreciate everyone sharing their happy day.
Don’ts
Avoid impromptu speeches.
Concerning how to start a best man speech, ensure it is not impromptu. Adequate preparation is needed to give a successful speech.
Don’t be too personal
Avoid sharing personal information that other people are not privy to regarding wedding speeches best man. Respect the couples’ boundaries, and focus on general information that is not private or sensitive.
Don’t focus on the Groom alone
On how to write the best man speech, be cautious about not focusing on the groom alone. Talk about his partner, and acknowledge their beautiful relationship .
Don’t reveal past relationships
Bringing up past relationships about the couple might make them feel uncomfortable. Avoid delving into that aspect of their lives.
Watch this video on whether you should tell your partner about your past relationships or not:
Why is it essential to plan your speech ahead of time?
When writing a best man speech, there are several reasons why it is important to plan the speech ahead of time. One of these reasons is organization.
Planning helps you to organize your ideas and thoughts so that your speech is structured and the audience will find it easier to follow. Another reason to plan is to allow you to select the content of your speech carefully.
You will have ample time to remove the inappropriate offensive messages and content for the occasion. Ultimately, planning your speech ahead of time helps to build confidence. You will become more conversant with the speech; it reduces nervousness and makes it less likely for you to make mistakes. RELATED READING 110 Inspirational & Funny Wedding Toast Quotes to Make Your Speech a Hit Read Now
What to avoid in the best man speech?
When giving the best man’s speech, avoiding things that could make the speech inappropriate or uncomfortable is vital.
For instance, avoid delivering offensive jokes that could be hurtful to the couple and awkward to the guests.
Ensure your speech is not lengthy in order not to lose the audience’s interest. Additionally, don’t give inside jokes because only a few people will understand. Your speech should contain jokes that almost everyone can relate to.
4 tips for writing a great best man speech
If you were given the honor of being the best man for a wedding ceremony, it is imperative to know how to write an appropriate best man’s speech. Here are some tips for a best man speech
When writing a best man’s speech, you need to start early. It would be unsuitable to write the best man speech when it is close to the wedding because you might leave some important details out.
You may not have sufficient time to practice, and the speech may not be as great as envisaged. Spending more time to write the best man’s speech comes with a high chance of great delivery.
Another essential tip to note when writing the best man’s speech is to be as genuine as possible. You can employ nostalgia to amplify this effect by taking the guests down memory lane.
Tell them stories of how wonderful the couple are, and ensure you remain authentic to your speech. Do not change who you are because you want to impress the guest; take an approach that doesn’t offend the guests and couple.
Know the topics to avoid
Some people make the mistake of including some offensive topics when giving the best man’s speech. Be careful not to pass negative comments about marriage during the best man speech for wedding.
Avoid previous relationships, past divorces/marriages, addiction, drinking, offensive sex practices, etc. Your best man’s speech should be focused on celebrating the couple instead of causing problems.
Write it down
When curating the best man’s speech, ensure it doesn’t remain in your head. Even if you’re a great orator, you need to pen down the speech so you don’t miss any salient points.
You might get nervous that day, and it could affect your memory. You can use a small note card for convenience to write the speech.
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Commonly asked questions
Here are some commonly thought queries along with their answers on preparing and delivering a memorable best man speech.
How much should the best man speech cost?
Writing a best man’s speech does not cost money, except you want to hire a professional writer to craft some nice and heartfelt words for you. The cost will depend on their expertise and the customization you need.
What clothes should I wear to the best man speech?
When you want to give the best man speech at wedding, you should wear something befitting for the occasion. You can check with the wedding organizer or the couple if there is a special dress preference.
What is the ideal time to give the best man speech?
The ideal time to render the best man speech depends on the order of events. Sometimes, it can come after the couple’s parents have given their speech.
How many drinks should I have before the best man speech?
Before you give the best man speech, ensure you stay off alcohol. If you have to drink, do it in moderation so it doesn’t affect your composure and train of thought. It is advisable to take water to enhance your ability to speak well.
What if I don’t remember my best man speech?
Reasons like stage fright or lack of preparation can prevent you from remembering your best man speech. To prevent this, ensure you prepare adequately by practicing, writing on a paper, speaking slowly, and trying to remain calm.
A speech to remember!
After reading this article on how to write a great best man’s speech, you’ve seen that it is not as complicated as people make it to be.
Ensure you prepare beforehand, and choose the right words to make the couple happy. Bless the couple with your warmest words and share some words of wisdom to guide them toward a blissful journey.
Also, read this research study by Parisa Samadi and other authors on the keys to a good and lasting marriage. This might also give you a good head start.
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The best man's speech traditionally follows the groom's speech (if he's giving one) and may or may not follow the maid of honor's toast (generally speaking, the better orator should go second).
4 tips for writing a great best man speech. If you were given the honor of being the best man for a wedding ceremony, it is imperative to know how to write an appropriate best man's speech. Here are some tips for a best man speech. Plan ahead; When writing a best man's speech, you need to start early.